is he just using me?
By chesssy
@chesssy (203)
Philippines
June 27, 2007 4:26am CST
there's this guy who's been calling me and sending me messages for quite sometime now. my boyfriend's really pissed coz he says that this guy likes me or has intentions of courting me. i disagreed and said that he was just being friendly.
however, recently his messages became sweeter and yeah, kind of like courting. but does that mean he really wants to court or me? or he's just comfortable in talking to me?
it's really hard for a girl to decipher guys' moves on courtship when he doesn't clearly state it.
don't get me wrong, i wouldn't leave my boyfriend for this guy but i don't wanna waste a good friendship just because of a gut feeling. i mean, he's not bad or something.
3 responses
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
i read on the comments that this guy has been your friend before you got a relationship with your current boyfriend. well you just have to know to draw the line. explain also to your boyfriend that there is a line between friends and between boyfriend. if your bf is to jealous about that well isnt it the time for him to grow up. what can he do you are friendly... whether it is a guy or a girl you are friendly and he should be friends with your friends too.
@roniroxas (10559)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
thats nice to hear. well relationship is a learning process. you learn some from it and learns as well. wink wink
@RosieS57 (889)
• United States
27 Jun 07
Here's a good rule of thumb. Try role reversal. If your BF talked of a gal friend who e-mailed and texted him a lot and was sooo nice? If he told you he was friends with her before he knew you? Would you feel comfortable with the frequency of the contacts or would you want to know more about what was REALLY going on? How would you REALLY feel about it?
If you turn it around you may get a hint of what you should do.
@chesssy (203)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
i guess this is a good thing to do. thanks!
thing is, i also encourage him to talk to other people. for 3 years, it has always been us together and doing things together. that i think we are too involved. i don't want to lose him but i don't want him to get bored with me.
@coolseeds (3919)
• United States
4 Jul 07
I think he is going for the hole.
He got in as your friend now he is going for the slam dunk.
You should never have to question whether a guy is just being friendly or trying to get it.
IF YOU HAVE TO ASK... then he is trying to get into your pants. That might be his only intention, nothing more.
