Secrets revealed after marriage

June 27, 2007 6:23pm CST
Before my husband and I got married we both made sure that there was nothing big about ourselves that the other one didn't already know. We both agreed that we already knew the important stuff after going over our own mental check-lists. I had no secrets about anything that had happened during our relationship, or anything huge that happened before. A few months after we were married I found out that my husband withheld several details about an important issue from his past. I can not share details as I am the only one who knows and I am not willing to violate his trust, but I was very upset and still get flustered whenever I think about it. I was wondering if this has happened to anyone else with their spouse.
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loverenth
@loverenth (136)
• Philippines
28 Jun 07
a lot of things are revealed when you start living with your partner. things change so you need to cope up with it. you learn a lot of things about him that you never knew before. that's why it's important that you've accepted that person as a whole before you marry him, otherwise you might see the worse of him and just back out all of a sudden. this happened to my friend and it put an end to their marriage. Hope yours work out!
litebrite87
@litebrite87 (86)
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28 Jun 07
I accepted what he told me and it never changed my view of him as a person, but I do see how some people back out of relationships when they learn something that they didn't expect. I took a vow and as long as he doesn't prove to be someone different than I thought I married I'm fine.
laltu86
@laltu86 (1249)
• India
28 Jun 07
Respect and belife are the most important terms in a relationship, i belive that , so you should talk to your hubby about any issues you have against him. After all if there is anything suspicious about him inyour mind it can lead to disastrous situation , god forbit it never happen though. Best of luck.