My Son Won't Eat Dinner..or anything else for that matter!!
By Michele21
@Michele21 (3093)
United States
June 27, 2007 9:07pm CST
My son is two years old and the most stubborn little boy!! Whenever we sit down to dinner he won't eat anything on his plate, he won't even try anything!! With the exception of Macaroni & Cheese...and who wants to make that every day for him?? So the past two days we have been trying to get him to eat and he will sit in his chair and cry and cry but he won't take a bite for anything, and if I try to put something in his mouth he spits it out!! And it isn't like he is snacking all day long, today he has some pretzels around 11am and then a few bites of noodles at 1pm, that is it!! Everything else is water all day long, with just a splash of juice in it. Should I force him to eat or just let it go and know that he will eat when he is hungry? (Even though it is hard to believe that he isn't hungry when he hasn't eaten all day) Any advice would be appreciated!!!
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@Aprilfreelance (96)
• United States
28 Jun 07
The picky eating is typical. At this stage, just fix him whatever he will eat. But until he grows out of this, you might talk to his doctor about giving him a multivitamin every day to make sure he gets what he needs. You can also hide things like wheat germ (packed with nutrients) in the mac and cheese. Multivitamins tend to increase your appetite, which will help him eat more.
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@Michele21 (3093)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Okay I am clueless about wheat germ...what are the health benefits of it?? Thanks!!!
@Aprilfreelance (96)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Hi. You can learn all about wheat germ and its benefits at http://www.healthline.com/galecontent/wheat-germ. Basically, it is undeveloped wheat seeds that contains a lot of nutrients. It comes in a powder form and has a slightly nutty taste, but when added to foods in small amounts is virtually undetectable by taste. It contains Vitamin E, magnesium, zinc, and some other essential vitamins and minerals.
@fizzytom (752)
• Maribor, Slovenia
28 Jun 07
Try getting your child involved in preparing food and make trying new foods into a game. Things like fruit are colourful and can be cut into small pieces big enough for a child. Let your child play with the food in his hands so that he may feel more comfortable trying to taste it.
It might be hard work but you really need to do this now to avoid him growing up with a limited diet and missing out on nutrients
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@fizzytom (752)
• Maribor, Slovenia
28 Jun 07
Ultimately, your son will eat if he is hungry. Do not make it an issue as this will just make him more nervous about food.
How about actual "games" with the food - grapes are perfect for this - they look like counters or something out of a game. Play with him and pop a grape into your muth as you play - he may just be curious enough to try it himself.
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@Michele21 (3093)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I have tried letting him play with his food, tearing it up whatever, he will play with it but can't put one single bite in his mouth =) It is like he thinks it is toxic or something =)
@wachit14 (3595)
• United States
28 Jun 07
If he's two he might be getting molars and it might be painful for him to chew. Give him soft food and cool things like ice cream, yogurt, an ice pop, but don't force him to eat or you will have to deal with other issues about food in the long haul.
@akd_71 (29)
• Malaysia
28 Jun 07
why don't you try this..
make it fun during dinner,
you hold the spoon, make car sound vroom..vroom.. stop the spoon in front of ur son face (say something about red light), reverse etc.. make other sound plane, boat, motorcycle,
you jump the spoon up and down (like a frog hopping), other animal sound cow, goat, etc.
it's work with my sons (2yo & 3yo), they'll eat
@Michele21 (3093)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I have tried that, he will laugh and giggle until I get to the point where I try to put it in his mouth then he isn't interested and starts crying if I push him.
@tuscon (48)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I think a meal of macaroni and cheese is much better than not eating at all. Eventually he will get tired of that and move to some other favorite food he has discovered.
You might try to make something just for him, maybe let him help you prepare it to get him interested it in.
But if that does not work then I vote for the M&C. He will eat when he is hungry.
@Michele21 (3093)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Thanks!! I guess I will have to suck it up and make him mac & cheese every day =) Silly little boy!!
@mandie_mae (97)
• United States
28 Jun 07
well i have a 2 and 3 year old and they dont like eating much of anything either but mac-n-cheese and bacon and pancakes and ofcourse candy but i still always put everything on their plate hopeing they will eat some of it. sometimes they will but other times they wont. i guess just give it time and talk to your childs doctor and see what they say you should do.
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@pinklilly (3443)
• Australia
28 Jun 07
Get him involved with preparing meals and make it fun and exciting for him Like make food faces on his plate or something... My two children are fussy and especially at that age.... If they don't eat what I have made I will alternatively make them a tuna sandwich or something simple and still good for them to eat... Good Luck
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@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
28 Jun 07
I think seeking doctors advise is best in this matter as it is the case of children we should be more cared and concerened. All the best.
@jbones32103 (717)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Our son does the same thing and he is three. He will eat hotdogs, bologna, pizza, or anything he can pick up with his hands like fish sticks. We do try to make him try other foods sometimes if we know he should like it. He has been doing this since he was two. I took him to the doctor concerned he's not eating enough. They told me he will eat when he's hungrey and kids his age are too hyper to want to sit down to dinner. They also said not to worry it's a phase he'll grow out of it eventually. We still are trying though no matter what.
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@unuzzz (1273)
• Indonesia
28 Jun 07
hi michelle21..
i used to be like your son 16 years ago.. hahaa LOL
my mother did this method on me when i was a child
she just served the food, no matter how loud i cried, she won't let me have what i want
what my mom did might sounds bad, but there's a good thing behind it
she wants to teach me to accept and thank everything i have,
so that i can be a modest person when i grown up
maybe you can do this method too
i think what you do now is to deliver the important value behind to your child
try to put a little much more patience on your son
assume this as a part of his education
i hope my story helps
thanks and good luck michele21.. ^^
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@Rickrocks8 (1751)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Oh boy does this ever sound familiar. I bet he loves milk? Mine were both the same way I had to cut back on the milk so they would eat. When I read the into I said I bet he's two lol I think it is also the age. If hes not a big milk drinker dont worry he will eat. Mine would eat in the bath tub alot because they loved the tub. I know it sounds really strange but it worked! Good luck!
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
28 Jun 07
This is pretty normal with toddlers. I have raised 4 children and they all went thru the picky eating stage. Each nite I fixed dinner for the family. They were not forced to eat it but did have to take at least a bite of everything on their plate. If they still "didn't like it" then yes, I did fix the meal of their choice which was generally frozen pizza or mac &cheese, hotdogs etc. It was a pain in the butt to be sure but as time went on, I did notice that gradually they developed a taste for other foods and got very tired of the same old thing. My girls are all older now and eat a healthy variety of foods including broccolli, onions, squash and all the other yucky stuff! Its a bit extra work for you but in the long run, i think it'll pay off for both you and your son. good luck!
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@kims374 (300)
• United States
24 Aug 07
I would not force him into eating...he will develop a bad experience and connotation with doing this.
Then he won't eat anything. I would let him eat only when he is hungry.....snacking thru the day does not help either, then he won't eat anything at dinner time.
@arvindneemuch (662)
• India
6 Jul 07
Try to feed him while he is watching his fav TV cartoon, kids generally eat anything during that time ,as they don't pay attention to the food been fetched to them, n r engrossed in watching there cartons :)
Let me know if it works out for u :)
@6in12years (305)
• United States
6 Jul 07
EEek-I have to disagree with this advice. Eating while watching TV leads to overeating and overweight. This is a temporary "problem" for most kids. IMO it is a bad idea to cure it by introducing a habit that can lead to lifelong health problems.
@mrsbrian (1949)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Well consider yourself lucky my grandaughter has been this way since a very young child she is now 8 years old and will only eat mac and cheese (the frozen ones)-pizza rolls and cereal, my daughter had her to a nutrisionest who wanted to force feed her well she said no to that, so the specialist said dhe had a problem with texture on her toung with certain foods and to let her eat whatever she would because you cant ket then go hungry as long as she is growing she is ok, I hope later in life she will out grow this, time will tell
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@6in12years (305)
• United States
6 Jul 07
Healthy kids will eat when they are hungry. It's completely normal for 2yo appetites to drop significantly, as growth slows down. At about the same time the kid gets interested in doing other things and also decides he needs some control in his life (normal developmental stage). Dinnertime looks like a great way to get it. First, rule out health problems, but this has worked for me:
Breakfast and lunch are usually quick options and the kids can have different things. Most of the options don't require any preparation (yogurt and fruit is popular here; so is a PB sandwich or cheese stick and fruit, or leftover dinner). I can't handle eggs, so most traditional breakfast foods are off limits. I make sure that all their choices for these meals are pretty decent ones-no junky cereal or poptarts.
I make one meal for everyone in the evening. No special orders. The kids are free to eat or not, with no begging, bribing, threatening, punishing or forcing. If they know they are allowed to skip dinner, they only do so if it's something they really don't like or if they aren't hungry. (I don't make them eat breakfast or lunch, either, but since they have more choices it's rarely an issue). If they don't eat any dinner, I know they've had something decently nutritious earlier in the day.
Here's what makes it work, though. If they choose not to eat, they can't have anything except their reheated dinner for the rest of the evening-no snacks, no desserts, and no alternate dinner. This isn't a punishment-I tell them that I want them to eat healthy foods so they'll feel good, and so I can't allow them to eat junk until they've eaten the food that will keep them healthy. My first 5 kids have made it through this stage eating a good variety of foods, all of them are healthy and at a good weight.
@_tjabele_ (26)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Just kep trying different food eventually youll find food healthy for him that he will eat and if he doesnt eat you could try punshment with him.
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@ashamilee (64)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Toddlers are notoriously picky eaters. When my daughter was two she went through the same thing - except it was ketchup and Carnation Instant Breakfast ("chocolate milk"). She would dip what ever was on her plate in ketchup and then suck the ketchup off. Our pediatrician told us to indulge her, and start giving her a multi vitamin.
I reccomend doing this to anyone now. By pushing food, you're making this battle of wills worse and longer than it needs to be. Keep in mind, he won't let him self starve. I reccomend getting the carnation instant breakfast and give that to him two or three times a day - it's packed with vitamins. We used about 1 package a day, broken up into about three sippies. When it is meal time - present him with little portions of LOTS of healthy choices. Fruits, veggies, cheese sticks, anything you can think of. And if all he wants is mac and cheese - go for it! We cut hot dogs up in ours, see if he likes that.
Another thing to keep in mind is toddlers are grazers - their bodies are not designed for three square meals and a few snacks. In fact, as adults we function best when we eat 5-7 small meals a day. Give him the opportunity to eat often. Give him the choice of what he wants to eat.
I'm not sure if this will work for your son, but we've been using it on my daughter since about that age - when she refuses to eat we tell her things like "hey did you know that cheese makes you big and strong" and "carrots make your eyes work really good - if you eat enough you might be able to see in the dark!" Another one of my favorites was "Morgan, I forgot how to eat my peas. I'm so silly. Can you show me how?"
Good luck and remember - just go with it!
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