How would you handle an abusive relationship?

I was in this situation, i was 12yrs old when i first met my ex husband to be... The first time he had hit me was when i was 14yrs old i had no one to turn to as my mum was violent towards me to, in the end i just lived with it for yrs i couldn't leave i was to scared, and he would continue to tell me know one would want me... I believed him as i hated myself i still do, i got pregnant at 17yrs by him and again when i was 21 in away i hoped both times would change him it didn't so i suffered for 8yrs with the violent streaks and abuse... Until one day i plicked up the courage and with the help of a friend i got away from it not just for me for my children to.. I have been out of this relationship for 15 months now and it's hard, i think it's down to if they wanna change as you can't change someone unless they're welling too...

Can everyone has heard the songs about how much love can hurt. But that doesn't mean physical harm: Someone who loves you should never abuse you. Healthy relationships involve respect, trust, and consideration for the other person. Abuse can sometimes be mistaken for intense feelings of caring or concern. It can even seem flattering. Think of a friend whose boyfriend or girlfriend is insanely jealous: Maybe it seems like your friend's partner really cares about him or her. But actually, excessive jealousy and controlling behavior are not signs of affection at all. Love involves respect and trust; it doesn't mean constantly worrying about the possible end of the relationship.

I'd say the best way is to get out of that relationship. The kids suffer more when they see their parents fight.

I would say wrong me once shame on you, wrong me twice shame on me for I have not learn my lesson, wrong me three times I am crazy if I don't learn now...I am known to be crazy sometimes though hehe...well this one is not a laughing matter. I would say seriously get out of the abusive saturation and seek some professional help. If there is still love in the marriage then those professionals will help to see if you guys can work it out but then you would be safe...but if it can't be helped then get out of the marriage because like they say plenty of fish out in the sea and you don't need to be hurt like that. If he don't want to go to counseling then you would have to go seek some yourself and put yourself somewhere else where you are safe...first thing is you need to be somewhere where you are safe and protected...it is easy said then done but it needs to be done...those poor kids needs to know that what the father is doing is bad or else they will follow his lead...or worst they will be abused as well...

Do you call that a "marriage"? A marriage is, or should be, a meeting of desires and minds, and the willingness to compromise, in order to achieve a common goal. Is your goal to be made into a rag? To possibly be murdered in the act? If it is - don't change anything. If you have done all you really could to save whatever it is that may be worth saving, and it won't work - protect yourself and your children. You are NOT a joke!!! YOU ARE NUMBER ONE!! Use the tool of the Internet to contact a professional and see what you can do!! http://www.davidben-gershon.bravehost.com http;//www.kasamba.com/david-ben-gershon