How to be a good Father!

Your question made me contemplate parenthood. I have always heard about children looking for a father-figure. When I think about it, I think children who look for a father-figure do not necessarily look for someone who is male. It is a more deep-seated need for something that their existing parent cannot give. For instance, if their mom is more loving, more relaxed, more impulsive, they are probably looking for stability, discipline, or a firm hand and they associate these things with the parent that is not present...which is say the father. That being said, I think to be both a good mother and father (especially in your case since the father is not around), you have to provide a well-rounded environment for your children. Try to strike a balance between discipline and leniency, freedom and responsibility, and all those other parenting stuff. Be there for them and be sensitive to their needs so that you can adjust accordingly. If they have an uncle or male relative that they can be close to, try to foster this relationship so that if there is something that you cannot give them, they have someone that you all can fall back on. I hope this helps.

Your child is a boy or girl?If it was a boy best to make him more contact with a number of men, Because if he is often with the mother together, the comparison will become feminized.

Hello there Sama..nice meeting you..I am in the exact same place as you...I have a 5 yr old son and i have notices that he is longing for some males in his life..but I have been meeting him haldway as much as i can..I let him get dirty..i hold my breath and close my eyes when he get rough and tries doing this tricks on his bike and skateboards..hes a daredevil..and im scared for ppuberty like u have noo idea!!!! haha!broekn bones out the ying yang!! i know it!! lol..but we go fishing..and i play whats things i can with him like toss football and baseball..im disabled from my back to im very limited ...but i push myself to the limits for him..he deserves everything i have..I watch other dads and how they are with there sons and i try mixing that with my beliefs..kinda hard to explain..but im trying my best as i know you are..they also have Big Brother programs all over..and im gonna look and see if theer are any in my area..im also lookin into karate and whatever else that has a man teacher..that way a man would be kinda of a male figure to him.....whatever i can find that wil help with the emptiness he yearns for..its sad..but true..but thats all i got now..he just turned 5..and it may not bother him as much now..but it will come..and i want to be prepared..hope i was some help..:)

I had a similar problem after my wife left and I had to raise my two sons alone, I knew it would be hard and wondered if they would grow up right with out having a mother in ther life, they missed her a lot when they were younger and there were times when I felt like I was in over my head but I was strong and pulled through the tough times, I took a job I didn't really like at first because the hours were better and they pay was better so I could support and be there more offten for them, and now that they are in there teen years they are practally raising themselfs, and my oldest son helps out his brother and vice versa it is really quite nice.

Hi, i would suggest just be yourself, you dont have to portray and be someone you are not. Life will teach you how to take care both as a mother and as a father. And am sure the kids couldnt be missing him either. I guess, precious time is all that the kids deserve right now, till they are grown up, time, caring , love and affection along with proper understanding.