What would you do in this situation? (Re: A Friend)
By Melissa528
@Melissa528 (744)
United States
June 28, 2007 8:23am CST
I was friends with a girl from Kindergarten until my Senior year of Highschool. I definately considered her one of my bestfriends and we have quite the history together but the last 2 years of HS she started acting strange. She was incredibly jealous of me and it showed. I could probably type for days if I get into all the details but I prefer to keep it short. Anyways, she didn't graduate HS (out of her OWN stupidity) and she didn't bother to even congratulate me when I did. Heck, she didn't even show up to my graduation. We spoke for about a month after graduation and nothing seemed out of the ordinary and then she just disappeared. She was "suppose" to be spending the Summer with her sister but I never heard from her again. It really bothered me at the time but I got over it and then guess who showed up at my door yesterday (over 5 years later)... Her! I might seem like a witch but I really don't want anything to do with her. I think what she did was wrong! She had my number that hasn't changed and she knows where I live. She could have got in touch with me if she wanted to but she's selfish and stuck on herself. Anyways, what would you do in this situation? Would you talk to her and try to re-develop a friendship again or would you just avoid her. I plan to avoid her. LOL
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@moomincat (321)
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28 Jun 07
I had a very similar experience. I lost my friend when we started going out with our husbands. She didnt even invite me to her wedding. We met some years later she found my phone number and asked if she could come and visit for the day, go back over the good old days and catch up. I went along with it but quickly realized we had both moved on, got very different lives, all we shared was a few memories good ones but nonetheless it was all in the past. I dont think it is worth getting upset and loosing your peace of mind over her. Just put it down to experience, she was part of your life then just take it as lifes rich tapestry.
@moomincat (321)
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28 Jun 07
For the reason that she stopped associating with you and another friend at the same time seems as if the problem wasnt your personal relationship with her. It could be that something happened in her family or a situation that she was having to cope with on a personal level. Prehaps it would be good to give her the benefit on the doubt and talk with her.Doesnt mean you have got to drag up the past it might be something she wants to put behind her now. It might not even be important now she has grown up. It would put your mind at ease, see what she has got to say. For the sake of times when they were good. It might be that you will get a good friend back, or it might be like me a interesting day recalling happy times but thats as far as it goes.
@Melissa528 (744)
• United States
28 Jun 07
This has happened with quite a few of my friends and it's understandable. We all grow up and go on different paths of life but the difference with her is that she just disappeared. We were friends one day and not the next. We didn't "drift" apart. It's almost like she had every intention to stop talking to me and our other friend.
@pallidyne (858)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I'd talk to them--- There is a reason they looked you back up. I might be a little suspicious, especially if they asked for cash or something. But if this was a sincere effort to reach out, I'd definately see what was up.
I can be a forgiving type sometimes.
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@Melissa528 (744)
• United States
28 Jun 07
I'm also the forgiving type but I don't want to be the forgiving type this time around. I just think that we were friends for sooo long that she shouldn't have did what she did. I surely hope she grew up in the last 5 years.
@magikrose (5429)
• United States
28 Jun 07
1 thing I have learned is that people can change. Maybe she realised that what she did was wrong. And wants to make up for it. You dont know untill you have a chat with her. At least over coffee.
@Gorgeous24 (1091)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Meli I know your mad at her and I would be too but I think you should atleast go to lunch with her (without adriel) because she doesnt yet deserve to hold him. Anyways just hear what she has to say about what she did and then let her know how her actions affected you.
I would definitely hear what she has to say and make sure shes okay but then I would leave it at that because when your friends with someone for so long they dont just up and leave without any explanation (thats just me)
Its a hard situation but she chose to leave and miss out on everything that has happened so far but in the end its up to you...just be cautious!!
@SmokePiff (436)
• United States
30 Jun 07
i know for a fact u NEED to talk to her. she's ur friend and u love her even though ur mad at her. get over it talk to her so ya can be the friends ya was in high skool (the loudest girl in the skool in the morning). if u really didn't care about her as much as u say u don't i really don't think u would of asked her brothers about her when u seen them. Meli MAN UP lmao just talk 2 her
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@dalhousiesteve (568)
• Canada
28 Jun 07
even though she might have hurt you,i wouldnt let it go.maybe she was going through something or she was scared maybe because you graduated that you might not want anything to do with her.But if you were such good friends maybe you should find out by talking to her.you never know what is in ones head,and know adays it is hard to find good friends,besides all that god says to forgive and he will forgive you
@Melissa528 (744)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Thanks for your response! A part of me wants to be forgiving but a true friend just doesn't up and leave without a goodbye.
