why do you want to get married?
By monicazhang
@monicazhang (802)
China
June 28, 2007 9:06am CST
I am twenty eight years old now.For many people,its ok to be single at my age.But my parents worried a lot,maybe they thought its sth 'losing face' and give me a lot of pressure.Every spring festival,I go to my hometown to see my grandmother and other relatives.Almost everyone would ask me 'when do you get married?' I am upset and embarrassed.Although I do have a stable relationship with my boyfriend and enjoy the time we spend together,I dont want to get married in a hurry cause I still have some goals to achieve and want much freedom.Sometimes I am really confused 'why do we want to get married?Is it a must in your life?'
3 responses
@jmathen (112)
• India
28 Jun 07
Getting married is not a must. There is a lot of people who are not married and enjoy remaining single. Well, I am a married person and been married for the last two years... I have to say, just because people are asking you when you are getting married, you dont have to get worried ! Thats how people are... when you get married, within a couple of months, relatives will be asking "isnt time to add a new member to the family". I believe you are in a good and comfortable position in your life and you are not really thinking about marriage right now. You have your own goals and try to achieve that... Marriage is a big step in our lives and i dont think it is something to jump into if you are not comfortable with the idea ...
@monicazhang (802)
• China
28 Jun 07
Thanks for understanding....I dont think I want to be single all the time but I do feel it is not right time for me to take the responsibility now.Yes,I would cherish the period of time before marriage and try to achieve my goals.
@happymom1 (1179)
• United States
28 Jun 07
Getting married is a matter of choice and a responsibility. I got married when i was 29 and thats also their question before i got married. Its embarassing but if your not ready to get married they cant force you about that. Get married is a matter of planning especially for the future of the family. I cant blame you because i think you are enjoying your life as like that for that time. I have a little bit of regret why i did not do all that things i want to do before get married. Enjoy your life as a single when you will get married you dont have almost have time for yourself all the time. You have a family to take care of.
@monicazhang (802)
• China
28 Jun 07
Thank you for sharing your experience with me.I do agree with your words and I guess I must sacrifice a lot of time and erengy on my family once I get married.But on the other hand,maybe its worthwhile.I thought you are a newly-born baby's mum and you are very happy now,is it right?
