Why is this acceptable?

If i went back 5 years ago i would say yes it was,but no way would i say yes today. Some guys get to the point of thinking i got her where i want her.She belongs to me and will never leave. Well hello you didn`t buy me at the supermarket sweetie and i do have a life besides you. They think they can run off whenever they want and their little sweetie will be home waiting for them.Come on guys wake up! You are not God`s gift to women you know! We like our guy to be with us.In the beginning you were always there so what changed? Maby they should learn to sacrifice now and then and they would find that their best friend is at home waiting for them. There are guy`s that think you can`t be friends with a woman,it`s just their ego.Most of them do not take the time to really get to know their better half and everything goes downhill from there.

personally id say he needs to grow up and start taking responcibility. dont let him get use to it or it want stop. if he isnt ready to grow up maybe it is time for you to move on to a better person. relationships are 50-50 partership and it takes alot of give and take but if he isnt ready to give he shouldnt take. life is short dont let him take what you have away move on.

It's not acceptable, it's pretty immature on his part actually. If you're making all the money and paying all the bills already...I'd say you can make it without an extra burden (him) lying around. I would tell him that he's acting as if he's single, and he needs to be more responsible of you and his child. Tell him to grow up and be man. You certainly can't be both the man and the woman. I would give him an ultimatum, if he wants to go to out he can go - but don't come back. Maybe that's too harsh, but I give respect to my boyfriend and would like it given back. If I'm the only one sacrificing, then what would I need him for? Good luck!

Oh i know exactly how you feel, but it's not that he wants to go out all the time, it's he wants to take a nap, he wants to play his video games. and who gets to watch bo while he's doing that, even though i was watching him ALL DAY?? Me. it get's irritating especially when they think theyre being helpful but it doesn't feel that way at all. and tell ray to start paying for some of the bills or get a job or something. he should start helping out with that especially seeing that he's living there and using everything too. oh. email me and i'll give you my number, we need to get away and hang out together sometime.

Ok, now was in the exact same situation. I had a lease with both of our names on it and a three year old to support. My guy was going out almost every night and not getting home untill 3 or 4 in the morning, then he would sleep all day while I was at work, and he would only work about three hours a day. I paid all of the bills and all of his money went to bar tabs and cab rides. Well, one day I decided I was aick of it and kicked him out. I told him if he wants to be with his buddies all the time, then thats fine, I'm not mad, I am just not going to be a part of it. If he wanted to see his son he could anytime he wanted to, at my moms house, (she was the child care provider). Well, it went on like this for about three weeks and he came crawling back and said he missed me and his son and he would be different. He was. And he only goes out every once in a while now, maybe twice a month. He realized what he was losing by acting this way and he didn't want to give it up. I am not saying this is what you need to do, but it worked for me and I wanted to let you know you are not alone.