how will you describe being a good mother?
By bhelle123
@bhelle123 (290)
Canada
June 28, 2007 7:12pm CST
I am a mother of a 13 months old cute baby boy, I tried myself to be a good mother to him in taking care of him, understands what he needs but I cannot compare myself to my mother, my mother has a lot of patience, understanding and love though I also showed love and understanding to my son but the patience is not enough.
5 responses
@lavenderbloom (1057)
• United Arab Emirates
30 Jun 07
Be yourself. Taking care of the baby comes naturally. We cannot be someone else. All individuals are made different. So don't worry about all this things. A mother knows best. Just follow your instinct and take care of your baby. You know your child more that anyone else.
@klgudelski (27)
• United States
29 Jun 07
I have a 7 month old daughter. I try to understand what she wants and needs. And I guess that I'm doing alright since shes growing and she laughs all the time, so shes happy. I think being a good mother means that you have to grow and learn right along with them, and just show them love.
@bhelle123 (290)
• Canada
29 Jun 07
you're absolutely right, in every steps, every moment as they grow up, you have to be there. As well as learning of what there needs. Communication as well is a must, most of all showing the love everyday will helps.
@Jennifer21 (2476)
• United States
29 Jun 07
Well, before I answer your question of "How will you describe being a good mother?", I will say to you, you should not compare yourself to your mother.
Everyone is different, which results in parenting differently.
For one, you don't exactly know for sure if your own mother had patience for you when you were 13 months old.
She may very well have had a problem with patience for you as well as you have a problem with patience for your 13 month old.
You should not compare yourself as a parent to other parents.
Every parent raises their child differently.
Every parent has there own way.
Plus, I completelly understand having a lack of patience for a young child.
Just now my 11 month old was screaming to be held forever!
I held him until my arm hurt, and once I set him down, he continued screaming once more.
Also, my 3 year old is always disobeying me.
It is so nerve racking that I am continuingly losing patience with his disobedient behavior.
To answer your question as to how I would describe a good mother, I would have to say LOVE.
If you love your child, then instinctivly, you try to do the best you can for your child.
And if you try your hardest to be the best mother you can be, that is all that matters.
Do not compare your love to the love others give their children.
@bhelle123 (290)
• Canada
29 Jun 07
you're awesome Jennifer, can you be my friend so I can ask more ideas and advices?
thanks
@somebodybig (941)
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29 Jun 07
You need to understand that people are different.You cant 100% be like your mom.Just take care of your child the way God directs you.i am sure no one in this world loves your child the way u do
@bhelle123 (290)
• Canada
29 Jun 07
yeah! you're true but sometimes i wanna be like my mother very patience.
@divine_0923 (5)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
i think to become a good mother, you have to sacrifice for them not only financially but also spiritually and give them the best that you can...
