children and discipline
By patricia85
@patricia85 (104)
Philippines
June 29, 2007 1:49am CST
in some countries, parents are not allowed to physically hurt their children as a form of discipline. i, on the other hand, was brought up in a culture that allows parents to spank their kids. however, this has led some parents to abuse their roles as disciplinarians of their children. a lot of children in my country are physically abused everyday. this is why i think that parents should never be allowed to hurt their children. i think there are better ways to influence a child's behavior.
how would you discipline your kids? would you ever spank them if they misbehaved? what if you've reached the very last inch of your patience? what would you do then?
3 responses
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
3 Jul 07
I agree with you completely. I have never hit my four year old son, nor has my wife, and we never will. We decided it wasn't a method we would use, even before he was born. My son is very sensetive, and a reward system works really well with him, such as stickers for good behaviour, and black dots if he is naughty. Now, just the mention of getting a black dot is enough for him to alter his behaviour. Very rarely do we even have to raise our voice to him. If he really pushed me to the limit, then I might yell, and as he wouldn't be use to it, I think he would settle down quite quickly.
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@patricia85 (104)
• Philippines
3 Jul 07
i commend you and your wife for they way you are bringing up your son. i think using physical means to discipline children will ultimately breed resentment, bitterness and also violence in them. also, after a period of time, they will get used to it or be numb to its effects. and what will parents do then? resort to more violence? it's a downward spiral that parents should never start.
thank you for your response. i hope this serves as a guide to all parent mylotters out there. :)
happy posting!
@hearts_melodies (78)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
Hurting children maybe not the most effective way of disciplining them but lets admit it is still effective and lets look at it in its bright side.As long as it is not abuse I think parent can do that.Its a parents right to discipline his child in a way she think thats right. We can't say what is the right discipline for a certain child for we r not his parent. It is always the parent who can only say that.................
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
7 Jul 07
It depends.
I would not want to spank but if the child needs negative reinforcements then I wouldn't say I would not. Sometimes, we as parents need to be flexible.
I grew up in a culture where it is ok to spank children. My father did spank us but he didn't overdo. We knew exactly why we were spanked. Most of the times, we were told what we did was wrong and there were positive rewards systems also used.
I think it should be balanced. Not that everything is punishable by spanking. or Everything should be rewards.
Well, I'm not yet a parent well but I did the disciplining part for my other siblings. And so far, everything was ok. I even included some spanking there and positive motivation.
So indeed, I think it should be a healthy mix of all the creative powers on discipline a person or a parent could formulate.
=)
