moter of teen needs help any suggestions

My children are much older, so I am trying to remember. I had a 14 yr. go off her rocker and ran away from home and hung out with a wierd crowd. She thought she knew everything and threw her fits. It was the most traumatic time in my life. Now she is 23 yr. old and has matured tremendously. Kids do things and different times, but it seems to me that she wants to be an adult and she is in the transitional period. Kind of like a 2 yr. old is when they throw there fits and say no, they want to be independant. Keep the boundaries and don't give in. Keep telling her that her behaviour is not exceptable and more she does it the more she wil have answer the consequences for her actions just like an adult. I mean you could sit down w/ her when is in a decent mood and explain that she will be soon enough and tell her what its like to be an adult with all its responsibilities. Hope this will help. Serenetime

I know exactly how you feel except I'm not a mother of a teen! My mother and I were continuously at each other's throats through my whole teen years. It's only just got better the last couple years and I'm nearly 24! She'd threaten to send me to boarding school and I 'moved out' of home twice to my Grandmother's and my Aunty's. Looking back now, I realise that she fought against me. I think it's SOOOO important at that stage of a teenager's life to be their friend. Still have your groud rules but be like a buddy instead of an authority figure. At that age, they're expected to act mature and adult like but at the same time they're always being told they're too young to do this and that, and be home at a certain time etc. I really wish my mother had been like a friend and talked to me more instead of arguing. Hope this helps.

I know its can be hard, I have a fifteen yr old daughter whom I am a single mom too, I pretty much laid down the law from day one, and she knows her boundaries, its not that I am trying to make her life miserable its because I love her and I want to keep her safe, you love your child and sometime we gotta give them some tough love, its for her own good, maybe there is something else going on, talk to her. She'll thank you for it later trust me!