what will you do if you see two ladies pulling each other's hair?
By mskzalameda
@mskzalameda (4023)
Philippines
June 29, 2007 5:54am CST
a catfight of two ladies. you know, pulling each others hair in front of the people.
This morning, I did nothing. I was in total shock. My two girl classmates had this long time non communication war and so, just yesterday, there's this incident that also happened before this fight.
The first girl and her boyfriend steal the crowd's attention [the crowd is our bunch of class only] they fight inside the classroom, the girl threw a bottle of mountain due to the guy and then after ten minutes or so, we just heard a noise from the back, the girl has been pushed from the boy and accidentally, the girl fell off from the chair and so that's the start of it.
The next day which is today. We have no professor on our first class which is 7-8 am. The mess started 15 minutes before the next class. The first girl had received a news from her so called "friend" that someone in the class is mimicking her due to that fighting instance with her boyfriend yesterday. She just cleared things out today and then made some accusations about her long time friend turned enemy [second girl]. The first girl then said 'you know who you are! come out and just show to everyone what you are doing. you have no right to mimic me...blah blah.." and so the second girl stand up and faced the first girl. Then, it is the start of the mess.
They cursed each other, they pulled each other's hair, almost all of the class helped except for the people who are not part of the mess. The boys did not help. The guy friends of the first girl's boyfriend just smiled seeing this act. They were like TEN PEOPLE keeping the two away from each other just so they don't each other but still they failed. The class was in total silence then. The only thing that is heard was the vulgar words said to each other by this two girls. The boyfriend of the first girl even helped her girlfriend out, cursing the girl who is pulling her girl's hair and even managed to act like he can kill for her girlfriend. o_0
The people who helped has received some scratches due to this. We were all shocked. we did not knew that their long time war will be like this. The fight just ended when our next professor came.We have one classmate waiting on the door for our next professor just to prevent the mess that happened. Our class has been known to be like a black sheep and so this kind of mess, we don't want it to be brought to the office since, being in the guidance office at this point of time [college] is not suitable. It is not so9mething like the old days of our Elementary and high school days. It is so different.
at the end of the day, the different groups of the class, surly, talked about this event. it is something not to talk to. it is so sensitive that we need to voice out our opinion. in our group, we think that there will still be a part two, a sequel and I hope if there will be a part two, I hope it will be the end of that war.
They were two great friends in our freshmen year and then, just suddenly, they were like this. Its so sad to think that our class is experiencing this now.
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23 responses
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
Gossips and rumors can really turn things to worse, a pure hear-say from another person can turn such news to nasty incidents. I think it is cheap, it would have been forgotten if they just let cooler heads do the talking.
I also have been to this situation, in-fact it was a fight between two neighbors, of which were relatives of a good friend of mine. The worst thing is, I was the only GUY that could stop them. It is very difficult to break up girl fights especially when they've already "locked their horn.";) The other won't let hold of the other one, lest, I just told them that they already had the whole attention of the crowd. It's a very tiring, as they both struggle not to let go of one another. Not giving up, but with my endless plea, both of them finally held their hands off of each other. One experience that I'll never forget, it is really hard breaking up girl fights..
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
yes you are right about that. its very difficult to stop them. even if i did not do it, I can feel that I can't do anything for they are so mad at each other. I just stared at them leaving me helpless behind. shame on me for doing nothing.
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
I just did what I think is appropriate, because those two were relatives of my friend. I also don't like seeing people fighting in public, afterall, they are both related at each other. I know I did good that time, because here in our country, everything can be settled in PEACE!:)
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
yes everything can be settled in peace but there's also a purpose for everything. maybe at the end they'll be the best of friends again since they went to many difficulties. I wish them to end like that so everybody happy. =)
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
29 Jun 07
Rule number 1: Never interfere in a fight.
Rule number 2: Never interfere in a cat fight.
With 2 girls pawing over each others and tear each other's hair, there is no way one can interfere without being hurt. It is all part of growing up.
I would leave those girls alone to cry over their fallen hair.
@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
haha! yes actually, they lost many strands of hair and their look is a total mess after that. ;P
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@revdauphinee (5703)
• United States
29 Jun 07
for your own safety stay out of it !!the female is always the most dangerous of the species!
@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
yes I think its true but boys are hard to control too just like the girls hehe!
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@66jerseygirl (3877)
• United States
29 Jun 07
yes,it is said.If I see fighting,I call the police. I have done that before.I don't condone people standing around and egging them on. I don't know why people have to resort to violence right away insteadof trying to see if things could be worked out.I am sorry you had to be witness to that.
@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
yes but if we will call the authority, as for this, the guidance counselor since we are in school, I think we will just jump into conclusion of that two girls having out of the school because the problem started from a past problem too and everything will be done. but on the other hand, it will still be resolved but our class would be the talk of the whole Faculty of Arts and Letters for some time because of this issue. we don't want so much publicity since its a bad one.
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
29 Jun 07
if it was a bad fight,i'd call security and stay out of it.no way i'm jumping in and getting scratched up.
i've seen fights where people try to intervene to stop it that both fighters will turn on the person trying to break it up.
@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
haha yes that is true. the funny thing about this scene is that before they even pulled each others hair, they are talking with their faces so close which I only see on TV shows he he!
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@mymoneyads (150)
• Malaysia
29 Jun 07
for shure I will ask them to stop fighting.. you know why. If somebody did not ask them to stop, they will fight by pulling thiers hair and tearing thiers shirt. This will make them look awfull and shamefull not to them but to all the girl/women.
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
yes it is a childish act. many have tried to stop them and they all have scratches and some sort of minor injuries
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@Darkwing (21583)
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29 Jun 07
Yes, it is sad to think that this sort of behaviour is splitting your class and creating bad feeling amongst others. It's so unneccessary! I think the first girl that was involved may have an issue with her boyfriend right now, which she should clear up out of class and thereby not involve others in here arguments.
Fighting in class like this is not going to do the class's reputation any good at all. Far better to discuss things, even in a free period, thus showing adulthood. Fighting like alley cats is no way to solve anything and I'm sure this won't be the last time it happens in this situation.
Brightest Blessings.
@Darkwing (21583)
•
29 Jun 07
You could be right but even so, something needs to be sorted out as the class is being disrupted. Maybe some sort of class meeting to try and thrash it out in discussion and make for a more peaceful time of it.
She really doesn't have cause to be jealous if she's that way, but there you go, you can't always tell what's beneath the surface of a beautiful woman. :)
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
yes and I think all of us are expecting for a sequel. the first girl I think has many emotional problems that's why. we think she's insecure for something she should not. I mean, she is beautiful, a model, have a "nice" boyfriend and all that but she's away from her parents and maybe that is the thing she envy from the second girl, family. so sad..
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@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
29 Jun 07
Firstly, you all are in college now and these two need to get over it and mature a little. They are adults now and should start acting like it. What they are doing is just childish antics and should have been stopped even before it began.
I know that some fights can sometimes be unavoidable, but it is better to avoid all fights when possible, so aren't dealing with something that can serious injure or cause other problems down the line.
I am sorry you had to go through this and be witness to, and I hope that this matter (or mess) is cleared up soon, and those girls can patch things up, or solve it in more adult manner that does not resort to any sort of hair pulling, scratching, whatever.
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
yes they act like elementary pupils which are not suitable at their age. I think w are the only class who have this kind of incident. we even belong to a catholic school.
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
yes and I almost laugh when they are talking to each other with their faces so close to each other. ow em gee.. ha ha! its a good thing that I have managed not to do so..
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@ryanphil01 (4182)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
an immediate investigation should be initiated soon by the guidance counselor of your school. this is a disgrace to the school. disciplinary actions should be taken against the two students which include perhaps suspension if both are found guilty of public disturbance. once and for all both students should face whatever penalty would be enforced to them. in this way, students are being warned of the possible consequences of whatever actions they are taking. this indecent behaviour should not be tolerated amongst schools because this violates their rules and regulations.
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
yes I agree on that. solving one problem can trace the root problem and many problems too
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@Nardz13 (5055)
• New Zealand
29 Jun 07
Hi. Sorry you had to see or be around that kind of negative experience, as for me I would've reported this as well, as I dont like to see violence or even be a part of it, and for me my interpretation of being a part of this evil act, is to stand around, watch and do nothing about it, especially how it got that far out of hand...
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
yes it is so sad to be in a situation like that. I seemed to be helpless. All I think that time was communication is really important. The first girl just have this hunch that the second girl was always doing something against her which is not true. We all in the class can testify on that. We even think that she, is the only one thinking like that. She' like insecure. I am no bias at this for this is what we can see. the first girl always shout out her feelings even if the 2nd girl has done nothing wrong. the first girl can't be just quiet on their issue.
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
29 Jun 07
yes it looks funny especially the part wherein they face each other so close and then "blah blah blah.." and then at the end they'll say "you! bad breath, you look like a merman" hahaha!
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
so do you mean that you always witness this kind of acts?
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@minijumbuk (514)
• Australia
30 Jun 07
If i was in these sort of situations, i would not go in and help EITHER parties!
1. You could get in trouble in the confusion of things
2. You will be bias towards another if you helped one and not the other
SO i would stay well away and just watch the so called "show" like the other boys did, which was cleaver. How is it reasonable even that there was no teacher present in a class! that is not responsible enough as anyone could have gotten seriously hurt and it would have been his/her (the teacher)'s fault for not being there........
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
yes it would be the fault of the prof for him being not present that time but he has valid reasons for we all knew that there is a mass on that day.. so he is excused for that one.
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
mass, celebration of the Eucharist, you know, Priest saying some things to enlighten us.. =)
@minijumbuk (514)
• Australia
30 Jun 07
hi, i don't know what you mean by 'mass'.
Could you please explain?
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@punkish (424)
• India
30 Jun 07
ahah watching two ladies fighing is fun...wat beeter can u get than this..isn it??well wat u have said was rwally really really long but intresting..i really cant prefer wat to say in dis kind of a situation except laughing and laughing..lolzzz
@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
yes I just laugh to the bottom of my heart and don't show them because I don't want to be part of the cat fight he he!
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@charms88 (7538)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
Hello mskzalameda. I really don't know what to say about this incident. At my age right now, all I can say is that this is no way to sort out a problem. Too childish and immature. There is always a proper time and place to settle the matter. Your classmates forgot there is a word called discretion.
I remember seeing a couple of girls fighting on the street while a guy was trying to pull them apart. The grapevine was that the guy was dating the two girls at the same time.
I hope your classmates will start to think maturely and let bygone be bygone. There's no sense in holding a grudge that long.
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
yes you are right charms88... they even crave for part two.. so childish..
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
2 Jul 07
When i see a girl pulling each others hair, if i knew them i will be there to stop them, to avoid to hurt each other physically, but if i did not know them, i must walk away to the incident or maybe ask someone they know how to stop them or to stop them. It is very annoying to hurt other people because of a problem, but surely this problem comes from the deep start, and they just like a volcanic eruption or world war II when they see each other.We cannot blame them for that reaction instead we should understand them and learned from them. We all humans, and we must respect each other, although we have a different approach to a certain problem atleast we will learned from our mistake.
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
3 Jul 07
yes I agree. we all have our own way of expressing ourselves but this two expressed it in the wrong place- in school. I wish them peace soon.
@subathra (3519)
• India
30 Jun 07
Its much disappointing to note these girls behave so badly among their classmates.Hope , out in anger they pulled each others hair and spelled bad words at each other.But they should realise that its not fair to fight like this in classrooms.
I think your classmates should talk to them somewhere outside of your school to resolve this.Some silly incidents are part of school life but physical fight is not a welcoming feature at this stage of life.
I have seen boys fighting in our classess during my school days but things get right when time moves and when we think of those movements now ,we just laugh discussing about the silly behaviour.
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@subathra (3519)
• India
1 Jul 07
You are right friend..if they want to fight or argue they should defintly do this outside the campus as this is a place for learning.They should behave with disclipline in a place like school.Hope they will realise this sometime later and regret for their stupid behaviour.
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
yes and I just found out that this two girls are in the same place the day after the fight but still they are not talking. I mean, why did they not do their thing outside the campus, why do it inside the classroom??? right???
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Everyone that is not directly involved should just back off and stop being involve...stop talking about it ...stop caring about it....if it is not your problem you are only adding to the drama and making yourselves a part of it by simply talking about it. Anyone here that responds to one side or the other is getting dragged unwittingly into a battle that they know nothing about. with all of lifes battles, why get drawn into one that doesnt involve us in the least?
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
3 Jul 07
no I know they can't know about this one and if ever they will, they will judged as guilty beyond reasonable doubt ha ha!
@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
but if no one ever cared on them, maybe they will fight until the sun sets.. sometimes, doing nothing can help but oftentimes, it is a big help if you will act.. as of this case, I did not since, they have all the help they need.
@sid556 (30959)
• United States
30 Jun 07
help in a case such as this has to be done one on one and in private and it also has to come from those that are very close to the girls. All these outsiders can only be adding fuel to the drama. even a post such as this can cause trouble if members from one side or the other were to read it.
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@handsomeharry (3)
• India
30 Jun 07
hey..its an age old saying that in a catfight the winner is always the naughty monkey..so whts the big deal?
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@mskzalameda (4023)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
hahaha! let me think about it first.. the first girl only won in the words but the second girl won in the physical pulling of hair.. so who's the big monkey then?? X)
