Joint families..??
By stella1989
@stella1989 (2274)
India
June 30, 2007 2:13am CST
What do you think about joint families..!!
Living with your father and mother with them your father's brother and sister and their kids.
And your grandparents too..!!
Will you live in a joint family like this...!!
I can..!! If every body is compromising enough to live together.!
Others wise its better to live alone and keep loving each other..!
Rather than staying together and fight with each other.
Well its not always a messy family sometimes we can also get to see some happy family too, living together..!!
:)
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16 responses
@paradise12 (938)
• India
30 Jun 07
I would love to live in a joint family as there will be so many elder people around me and would learn so many new things ....
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
30 Jun 07
These things are good but after some levels it feels that they are intrrupting a lot in my life..!!
@vidyab (11)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Just like each relationship has its own positive and negative points this goes without saying that whether joint families are also benefited with many things.
Plus points:
Helping hand
Good care of children
Family decisions
Financial benefits as it is divided equally- well this also depends on family to family
Understanding our relationships
just to name a few.
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@adityamandan (102)
• India
24 Sep 07
joint families are definitely in for me. the basic reason is that it gives the young ones a sense of closeness to family. it helps develop respect and love for your relations other than your closest family. a major plus point is that you are never alone in the time of need. one learns the essence of give and take in such a family. and festivals and celeberations become fun when you have large number of people to contribute to it. but the best part of it is then you dont have to think of an excuse to get the whole family together.
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
25 Sep 07
Good to hear that aditya!!
But My experience is....elders never allow you to be free to play widely, you are never left alone even though if you want to be alone, no privasy!!
Small kids at your place always gets the first preferece!!!
Old members (in case of girls) are so very orthodox!!
And I am just not saying all these things from any movie I just experienced it all by myself!!
And my kind of people just want to live free and alone not exactly alone but I get irritated by the loads of people around my self ...only in home. I like being at my ease at home no one to disturb me at all!!
AS I am all at my own self at home..!!
I even hate any guest at my home..!! As I hate any outsiders to come in my house!! I don't know why I am like that??
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@pramodthakur (2365)
• India
30 Jun 07
Living in joint family has many advantages and disadvantages. If all the family members are contributing honestly on everything then it is OK. Otherwise lot of problem will arise. The contribution should be as per need. Because from income point of view all may not have same income. So someone will have to compromise. The man/woman who are not earning will have to contribute in other unproductive works which are also essential to run joint family. In joint family there are lot of such works which needs workforce. Kids get good family culture living in joint family. Higher education can be arranged easily as there will be no fund problem.
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
30 Jun 07
Well thats not true in all joint families..!!
WE used to have many fights.
My two uncles never worked and were lazy and always fighting with my father!!
It was never that much fun...its happy that we are alone now..!!
Thanks for our response.
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@thefuture (1749)
• Nigeria
30 Jun 07
Yes friend. I think I agree with you on this. Living in peace with each other is the principal thing. If I will live in such a group of people without peace, then it means nothing. Living in this type of family isn't an easy thing cos here one is going to be living with people with different caracters. Well I will say it all depends. If there is not fight between us, I will live with them, but to be honest with you, I wouldn't like to live in such a family. Thanks and have a nice day.
@ryanphil01 (4182)
• Philippines
30 Jun 07
these are also called extended families. personally, i don't like this kind of setup in a family. although it makes us happy living together but practically it would be more messy and quite disturbing if some of the members do not cooperate with each other. problems would pop up if compromises are not met like financial aspects of it. i prefer to be staying separated from my main family. in this way, i would learn to be more independent and self-sufficient in whatever endeavours i would be taking.
@stella1989 (2274)
• India
30 Jun 07
I have the very same thinking like you have..!!
Thanks for your response.
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
30 Jun 07
yes thats true Jessem You will never feel alone..!!
As I do always..!!
My both parents are working, my brother is in hostel and I live with my care taker most of the time in my house all alone..!!
I really feel lonely..!!
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
Living with joint or extended family compromises privacy, of a member or of the family as a whole.
It would be better if someone/somebody would sacrifice themselves and move out of the house, like those who could already live a life of their own.
As family grows, expenses also start to rise up. It is hard if only one person or member works for the whole family. Or if there were others, they only keep what they earn for themselves. So it's better if they separate, for the family to move on and prosper..
@lecanis (16647)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
1 Jul 07
I think it really depends on the people involved. It does sound like it would have a lot of advantages, with kids growing up with many role models to teach them things, and more people around so that each person could do the things that they were best at rather than taking on all responsibilities.
If I had a good family, I could see trying it. Since my own family was abusive to me as a child, of course, I wouldn't even let them be in a room alone with my son, so in my own situation the answer is no.
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Kind of reminds me of full house, where jessie and rebecca stay there with their twins. I always thought that would be neat. It doesn't always work out so peachy though. My sister and her husband moved in with us and it wasn't what I thought it would be. I imagined game nights and watching tv together. What I got was extra housework, extra cooking and no help. We wired cable to their room with not so much as a thank you. Once they got cable in their room we never saw them. Its a nice idea, but its hard to live with your family unless you are all pretty compatible.
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
1 Jul 07
Yes..!!Full house is exactly like ME Dream family..!! and also with a mother..!
WE all needs to compromise a little nothing else..!!
@lucky_witch (2707)
• Philippines
25 Sep 07
I guess with your parents or the parents of your wife/husband esp when they are old is ok so there would be someone to take care of them... but with your brothers and sisters... with their respective wives and husbands... I dont think so. I believe that it is better if they would be living on their own to become independent. And every family is entitle for privacy... so I guess it would be better if they start living on their own.
@Ravrockin (281)
• India
30 Jun 07
no i dont live in a joint famil like this well i love and wish to live in such joint family.Well if in future i will get this type of chance to make and live in joit family i definately go for that.
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@juniorance (250)
• India
25 Sep 07
I wud love to have such a family in this modern era . Actually such system exsited here in kerala before and still few joint families exsit here .
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@8ctavarium (552)
• Australia
1 Jul 07
I did before. My grandma and uncle use to life with the family until my uncle got married and moved out. Even before that, my grandfather on the other side of the family use to live here as well. Although everything is fine, the only problem was during shower time, there was usually someone there and the hot water would usually run out too quickly, but other than that, it wasn't too bad.
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@Inky261 (2520)
• Germany
30 Jun 07
I think this is a very good idea and it is living a bit like the "Walton`s". One needs to have a big enough house and I think if most of the family members are willing to make an effort and work hard it can work out pretty good.
For many people this lifestyle really is an option.
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@coferbox (298)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I love my parents and extended family but I don't want to live with them again. I think with to many sets of kids and parents under one roof you are just asking for trouble. I know in some cultures this is the norm, and I suppose if that is what you are use to it would be different. But I grew up in a house with one family and I like to keep it that way now that I have a family of my own. I like my own having my own space.
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@sanjeevarora (22)
• India
30 Jun 07
Living together in a joint family has both advantages and disadvantages. If all the members are aligned then nothing is better than joint family. Togetherness is strength, you can overcome any hurdle in life with joint efforts. But if even one member is not in tune with anybody in the family he is going to create havoc in the family and destroy the relations. It is better to separate that person if possible or everybody should live separately in that case and have a get together once in a fortnight.
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