I think I'm in trouble with my husband's family...

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Last weekend was my husband's family reunion. We make a weekend out of it, go up the night before and stay the night after. It's great to get together with the whole family during the day, then just his closest cousins in the evenings. The cousins are all about the same age and only see each other a couple times a year. We just hang around at a bon-fire in the woods, catch up, do stupid things and laugh all night long. Well, this year, about a week or so before the reunion, my sister-in-law and a cousin got a little bent out of shape because the daughter of the cousin that organizes it sent out baby shower invitations for the evening of the reunion. The girl is 21 and this is kid #3. She was just married last year and as one cousin said, "This looks like a beg-a-thon" seeing as everyone will be at the reunion, of course they're going to stay for the bon-fire, why not get some more baby gifts out of the deal... Well, my invitation had the wrong address so I didn't get it until 2 days before the reunion, but I knew about it when everyone else got theirs. So, even though everyone was all bent out of shape about it - it was pretty rude to impose on the reunion with this shower (I harldy know the girl, she's barely said 2 words to me ever) - my sisiter-in-law and the other cousing both got her a gift, but did not "attend" the shower. Another cousing was contstantly being dragged away from the bon-fire activities to be present at the shower. She was not happy about it either, she wanted to visit with her cousins!!! Needless to say, all anyone could talk about was how rude and tacky it was to have this baby shower the night of the reunion, while we were all trying to visit, just so this kid could get some more gifts! Well, the night before, I approached the mother-to-be's step-father and asked him what the deal was. I'm pretty blunt and if something's on my mind, I get it out in the open. He said he didn't realize it was going to be at the reunion, that was news to him. He said her friends all organized it and he had nothing do do with it and didn't seem none too happy that it was happening either. So, last night I get a call from the cousin, wanting to know if I'd received my "apology" yet. Both the sister-in-law and the other cousin got an apology letter from the mother-to-be, explaining that she was sorry she intruded on the reunion, she wasn't begging for gifts, she just wanted her relatives to join in on the celebration. She didn't realize she would be intruding, but just thought they would all like to be with her and picked the reunion date because they'd already be there. So, now the cousin feels guilty because she got this apology letter and all!!!! I haven't gotten my apology letter (yet?) because they have the wrong address, and I didn't get a gift for her, but if I do, it will be the EXACT same wording as the other ones. I told her to just let it go. The girl was wrong to have the shower during our reunion and now she's apologized for it. The cousin is mostly upset that she was "found out" because she wasn't happy with the whole thing. Now, my question to you... Would you have said something about it in the beginning, or would you have just let it go and rumbled on about it to anyone else that would listen (behind everyone's back)?