Do You Hug The People That You Love?
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
June 30, 2007 4:58pm CST
It amazes me how good a hug can feel. When someone you care about gives you a hug, it makes you feel so wanted and loved. When you have had a long day at work and you come home and your spouse, child, or friend gives you a hug, it makes the load seem so much lighter.
There are so many different kinds of hugs. There is one to say hello or goodbye. One of congratulations, sorrow or distress. There is one of happiness and glee and one to say that everything will be alright. But the main thing that a hug says is that I am hear and I care. Do you hug the people that you love, you should.
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@Flight84 (3048)
• United States
30 Jun 07
I come from a very affectionate family so I always give hugs. Such a simple gesture can make things seem so much better. It always makes me smile when my husband hugs me. It makes me feel loved and safe. It surprises me how many people don't give hugs anymore.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
30 Jun 07
You are right, a lot of people don't give hugs anymore. I don't know why that is. Maybe they are afraid of rejection or seeming too needy. There have been times when I have given a person a hug and they were kind of stiff, but, then after that, every time I would see them, they would give me a hug.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
30 Jun 07
I love to smile at people too. I think it is because when I was younger, people use to always ask me, why do you look like that? When I would ask what they meant, they would say that I had a mean look on my face. Now, I always smile, to be sure that I am not frowning.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
1 Jul 07
I"m portuguese, we hug and hug and hug LOL
I love a hug and give them freely to family and friends.
My kids are used to them and and expect them,even their friends do:)
My husband's family is not like this though and it was a bit difficult to adapt to their ways at the beginning but in the end I learned.
As for my family hugs were part of each day for this reason or that and I loved it :)
SO yes, hug your loved ones, you really should :)
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
3 Jul 07
My inlaws.. and hugs??? Not happening. Unless I won a million dollars, then they will be hugging all over the place trying to reach my pockets LOL
But it's ok, I learned to live with them an their ways, while keeping the hugging tradition alive in our home:):):) that's all that matters :)
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@Penguinsangel (3498)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I am very much a hugger. I love hugs, though sometimes I am just am not in the mood at times for hugs. But your right hugs can make you feel so good and you can feel such a conection through hugs.
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@Penguinsangel (3498)
• United States
1 Jul 07
sometimes I am just too grumpy to be touched
lol so its best to stay wide path and let me be
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@daycarepal (1998)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Yes I do. It just comes naturally for me. And I've even got my daycare kids doing it. Each day as they are leaving to go home, they always come up and give me a big hug. It's funny cause I started doing it with each chld from their 1st day with me. Now it's a big deal to them. They have to get their hug or they won't leave LOL.
@Juanamomof5 (429)
• United States
30 Jun 07
Yes, we hug a lot, and we do it just because sometimes. You're right a hug does make you feel better everytime, if not it makes you realize your not alone. So here's a hug just to say hello.
@Juanamomof5 (429)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Thank you, I'm off and on through out the day since my kids get on the computer. I do enjoy myLot since it keeps me from just eating all day.
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@Titanum (98)
• Australia
1 Jul 07
Human interaction is key in social standards, i myself love to have a good hug with my friends, it can be a hello hug, goodbye hug, congrats hug and of course the hug you give to a partner or loved one.
Essentially the world would be a wonderful place if everyone hugged everyone (might be a bit freaky) lol.
With my friends though, i seem to yield a certain hug factor. Some friends although i love them dearly i can not be affection with in that way, other friends, i will hug at random, not because they want one, but because i want to give them one. strange huh? ;)
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@limosonia1 (1559)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I always hug all the people that I love. I want them to always know that I love and adore them. I think it is important that they always know how I feel at all times about them. I don't ever want a day to go buy that they would have to question how I feel about them,
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Absolutely. It is one way to make us both feel good.
Since this topic came up, I thought I would pass this on.
I work with developmentally disabled adults, as care givers we are supposed to help them to activities of daily living but let them do as much as they can. Many care givers do not have the patience to work with these people and do it themselves, it is faster and easier. Well, I took one of my guys shopping for produce. It was quiet in the store and he has always been pretty well behaved, so I decided to try and let him do more then just push the cart around. I let him tear down the plastic bags and to put the apples, orange, brocolli, etc in the bag and then into the cart. I let him pick up the bunches of bananas. Well, about midway through the trip, he was just so happy doing this, all of a sudden, he just leaned over and gave me a kiss on the cheek.
It felt so good knowing I was reaching this guy, I could not have been happier that night.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
1 Jul 07
This is fantastic. I have also worked with the developmentally disabled and I completely understand about the ADLs and how important it is to be patient and encourage them to do as much as they can by themselves.
These kinds of jobs are hard, but very rewarding. I would come home tired and exhausted, but it was a good tired, because I knew that I had made a difference in someone's life. It feels real good when you connect with them on a personal level. Keep up the good work, God bless you.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
1 Jul 07
All the time. I hug my son everyday and my hubby before he leaves for work and when he gets home. When I see family members I hug them too. When I meet up with my closest friends, we hug as well.
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@gwendovere (1279)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I hug my husband & my son often. But not most other people, at least not often.
I'm not a cold-hearted person. I just sometimes have trouble seeing what people's boundaries are & I don't want to seem like I'm too clingy or emotional, or worse yet ~ to be rejected by them.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
1 Jul 07
I know exactly how you feel. You have to be able to get a sense from that person that it is okay to give them a hug and some people just don't give off that vibe. Sometimes it is okay to ask for a hug and see how they react. The worst that could happen is that they say no.
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I am a huggy person, I love to give huggs and get huggs. My friends and I also tell each other we love each other all the time. I feel that is good also.
I feel life is to short not to let someone you know that you love them.
@8ctavarium (552)
• Australia
1 Jul 07
It depends, some people I do whereas some I don't. And this applies not only to love but for close friends and such. Some are a hit and miss whereas others its just seems natural to do so.
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@matte5 (1913)
• Sweden
30 Jun 07
Yes i do I hug my old mam ewery time i go to see her. I hug my wife several time aday and i get hugs from here then i feel the warm thing a hug in love are careing, and my children gets hugs even nowe when they are grown up and hawe there own familys. we shold hug the one wee love more then wee get a better world.
@fungurly1 (180)
• United States
1 Jul 07
My family arn't huggy people I guess you could say. But my friends and my boyfriend are huggy people and I love it. When I see my boyfriend after a long time away from on another and he just sweeps me up in his arms and we hug and smooth sometimes up to an hour. Just in the drive way. I always think people are looking at us. But for all I care let them thats our time and if I cant even make it out of my car before he tries dragging me out them I know that means I mean something to him. The good bye are always great too. They usually take forever, But I like it. When I get married and have kids I will deffenatly make us a huggy family.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
1 Jul 07
I know what you mean. My family aren't very huggy either, but they have other ways of expressing their love. I am an emotional person, so I guess this is why hugs are so important to me. I am glad that I have friends that like to hug. Like they say, friends are the family that you choose.
@applsofgld (2506)
• United States
1 Jul 07
Yes, I do hug the ones I love. And I hug the ones I just like too. A hug can make your day, to me it is an expression of affection. Sometimes I can look at a person and tell that they need a hug to make them feel better. Great discussion Rozie.
@raychill (6525)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I love hugs. I think hugs are a wonderful feeling and I love to both give and receive hugs. However, I know a lot of people who get down with the hugging thing, but I do not enjoy hugs from strangers or people that I am not very close to or comfortable with. I find it weird...and awkward.
However, in general I agree that hugs are a great thing and should definitely be given and received more often.
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@abiesm (373)
• Vietnam
1 Jul 07
I'm from vietnamese so my parent don't get used when I hug them . But I do that often, because when I do this , I feel them by my side all day ^^
I and my bestfriend like to give each other hugs, because we can feel love from the other the most clearly by this way .
I don't have a bf yet , but when I get one, I'll give him hugs everytime he's sad or has problems ^^