Have you ever loved someone you didn't like?
By loralee
@loralee (542)
United States
7 responses
@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I have seen that reference a number and times, and struggled with having it make sense to me. Much as I try to understand the concept, I can't get to a point of thinking that I could LOVE someone, without first LIKING them.
Maybe it's just a matter of perspective and individual interpretation. Many years ago, my girlfriend insisted she felt that way about people... and I learned about different perspectives... for "love" was something she very easily could give out, whereas "like" was something that required time and "cultivation." My perspective is just different from that... I can't even CONTEMPLATE loving someone I don't like. I can see it, in a limited sort of way, as it might apply to a family member...
Then again, maybe what we're dealing with here is the difference between the ACT of love (i.e. "being loving" towards someone) and the FEELING of love (i.e."feeling in love" with someone).
@loralee (542)
• United States
2 Jul 07
...family members. How we do have to...
I like how you put that 'the ACT of love'. It denotes to me having to learn an expected behavior toward ones brothers and sisters/humanity as a whole. I'm thinking the cultivation of 'like' is maybe connected somehow to 'love thine enemies.'
How strange life can get at times when we force ourselves to go against the grain of who we are.
Now-a-days I find myself trying to avoid that and who I don't like too much and when unavoidable, try to find solace in the world of the mind.
*enter poetic mode*
...to be 'in love'
to feel rescued
like the world sent you
your own personal savior/lover
in love and lust
forever and ever.
amen
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@angelbaby16m20d (124)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I love my husband but I can't stand him. Does that make sense to you? It doesn't to me either. He's mouthy and rude and the total opposite of me. The sad part is I can't stand him but I don't want to divorce him. Sad but true!
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@loralee (542)
• United States
1 Jul 07
That is sad. Can you think of any of the things you have in common with him or had in common with him when you were dating? I looked at your profile and see you are 23 which tells me you have not been married too long. Things can be tough in the beginning of a marriage. I am interested to hear about what made you love and want to marry him.
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@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
2 Jul 07
That's what I also thought of, because when Ifeel in-love, I can't help but to express my feelings through music and movie-lines!;)
But I also found out that, we cannot force things on our side. Because people are different, everything changes and it's sometimes way beyond our expectations. We can never be sure, we all just have to live through it. Be it in-favor of us or not, we have to accept reality..
@villageanne (8553)
• United States
1 Jul 07
I dont think it is possible to love someone without likeing them. I mean we dont have to like all their ways or everything they do but we do have to like them. If we dont like someone, we are only deceiving ourselves by thinking we are in love with them. I love my husband, he is my best friend. I like him very much also
@loralee (542)
• United States
1 Jul 07
That is truly the best when things work out that way. I do not share everything with my other half. There are many things we do not relate upon. We do hold many of the same beliefs, philosophies, way of life issues. We have some similar interests and some not so similar interests. I am truly appreciative of my other best friends who fill spaces that one person has never held the ability to do for me nor I for them. I am ever so curious to experience a relationship so full as the one you are in. If there is such a thing as another life, I hope I chance to experience such fullness from one person.
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@moomincat (321)
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1 Jul 07
It reminds me of the saying that love and hate are very close emotions. Love can turn to hate and vis versa. Attraction is a very diverse feeling. A lot of women fall for the really bad boy. I know in my youth I thought I was in love with someone that I really didnt like, the way he treated me or his friends terrible trap to be in.
@a_ce_e (1422)
• Philippines
1 Jul 07
It happens to me once, during my youth i hate wearing girly shirts which fit the body. I love wearing polo shirts which is boy's shirts, i hate girly wears before till i realize to love wearing girly stuff when i got a crush in school and have to act like a young lady to looks cute.
@casper_the_ghost (238)
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1 Jul 07
i dont think it's ever happend to me..and ever will :P
i know of people that it does happen to
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