Miscarriages
By sahm35
@sahm35 (890)
United States
July 2, 2007 12:44am CST
Has anyone had a miscarriage? I had one November 2005. My husband never cried and I could not stop until my due date. Then on the anniversary of the miscarriage my husband did not seem to be phased.
I know that he loves me and loved the baby just as much as I did but...
I am pregnant now and will be expecting the baby in November 2007, kind of fitting. He seems so excited now, I just pray that his son will be all that my husband desires for him to be. My husband seems so proud.
But what about the baby that I lost, should I just forget and go on? I still cry for the baby every now and again even now.
Has anyone else had a hard time getting over a miscarriage?
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5 responses
@oasis_9 (831)
• Philippines
2 Jul 07
Just think of her as your guardian angel always guiding you in every way... Who said that you should forget inorder to move on? loosing a child is never been easy for a parent...Just prepare yourself for the coming baby just like what your husband is doing... ;) and goodluck being a mom
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@mp48tm (7)
• United States
8 Jul 07
I have had 3 miscarriages in my younger childbearing years. It is not easy to get over.My husband never showed me any emotion,that I never saw. I still think about the babies I lost. But I look upon it this way, there was a reason for my miscarriages. But Life goes on and right now you need to concentrate entirely on your up coming giving birth in November. CONGRAULATIONS. You will reflect everynow and then, with your miscarriage as I have done, It is a part of you and who you are. God bless you.
@sahm35 (890)
• United States
9 Jul 07
Thanks MP! Right now we have noticed that my husband is having sympathy pains right now. He sleeps all of the time and feels nauseated. If it goes on much longer he may have to go to the doctor, but for right now we are just assuming that he is bonding with this baby.
@Kaeli72 (1229)
• United States
3 Jul 07
After I had our first miscarriage, I couldn't stand the sight of my period blood in the toliet. It took me a year to get over the feeling of what I saw when I realized I've lost our first child. Yes, my husband cried. He cried harder than I did. But, he was so good. He's the type that changed my pads for me because he was so loving.
But, time heals wounds. We've been blessed with a beautiful baby boy and now expecting our second in January.
Good luck to you and your hubby.
@sahm35 (890)
• United States
3 Jul 07
Yes I know what you mean, seeing blood freaked me out too!
I guess that I have to get over the fact that I lost the child at work and my boss who knew that I was having problems and that I had seen blood, asked me about the location of a report as I walked out the door on my way to the hospital.
@makingpots (11915)
• United States
4 Jul 07
Congratulations on your pregnancy. How are you feeling?
I'm sorry about your loss. I imagine that it is very normal to still think about the baby. I don't know if you can ever really move on. However, I think you should let go of your concern over your husbands show of emotions (or lack there of).... especially now that you are pregnant again. Men seem to move on about things like this a lot easier and you may just never come to understand what he was truly feeling at the time.
@tikensoup (227)
• Mauritius
3 Jul 07
It is a sad story Sahm but like everything in life, there is always hope. Life does not stop with a failure. There always is a second chance whatever its shape. I hope everything goes fine for you.Good luck.
