Should my friend go forward and tell her dislike to her parents?
By subha12
@subha12 (18441)
India
July 2, 2007 4:55am CST
My friend's parents have seen a guy for her. But the problem is my friend has earlier told her father that trhe groom should not be more than 3-4 yrs older to her. But this guy is 6 yrs older to her. So my friend want to go forward and ask her parents about her dislike absed on this fact. She also thinks taht her parents may feel bad. But its her life and I also think ow a days a big age gap is not good.
5 responses
@whyaskq (7523)
• Singapore
2 Jul 07
In my opinion, it might be better to meet the guy, assess the guy and then tell the parents if she thinks he is not suitable. In this way, it addresses any embarrassment the parents may have, especially when she rejected outright without even trying. Just the age difference is not a valid excuse. I understand she has stated her preference, but the parents ignore it.The question should not be the age difference, but whether they are compatible or not. She only need to prove that the guy is not for her since he is so much older.
@MrNiceGuy (4141)
• United States
2 Jul 07
Arranged marriage I presume? That's awful. She should have much more input than just age anyways. She should be able to pick her husband on her own. Arranged marriage is crazy.
@aissha (2036)
• India
2 Jul 07
hi subha i guess she is the same friend about whom u are putting discussions ,hey my husband is 1 yr. and 10 months older than me and i feel more the age gap happier the woman is there cannot be any rule as such how much aguy should be older he can be younger also ,important is understanding and willingness to understand and adjust. just on age saying no is absolutely foolish
