No divorce for me at this time, but who knows what the future holds.......

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For those of you that are up to date with what is going on with my marriage, we have decided at this time to put talks of divorce on hold. We are going to try therapy and medication. Sorry, if I sound a bit bitter, but I seriously think my husband's sudden change of mind is a ploy to lull me into a false sense of hope. He has agreed to see a doctor about depression meds (happier living through chemicals!!) and to go to couples therapy. But, my dear husband, has made certain limitaions to who we can see for couple's therapy. The therapist MUST be a man. Hubby thinks a woman would be biased towards my side of things. It CANNOT be through the church. Hubby thinks a church based therapist would try to throw Christian morals and values into the mix and try to force us to stay together even if that is not best. I think my husband is playing games but who knows. Also, my husband wants us to draw up a contract of sorts that lists out how we would divide our assets (as if we actually had any) should things get ugly. I told him that was easy, everything in our house was either brought to the marriage by me or bought with my money before we got married, therefor it was mine. THe only things that he actually owns are the computers, the couch, the tv and the maple dresser. He was royally upset when I pointed all that out. So, he tried to tell me that we would have to sell the car. I pointed out that the car is in my name and was a gift to me from my uncle. Therefor, again, it is mine. He has no legal claim to it. So, then he presents me with a "rough draft custody agreement" that he came up with. It was so funny that I actually laughed out loud and upset him even more. He wanted me to have full custody of our son, provided that I promised never to remarry. If I remarried, I would have to give full custody back to him. In exchange for giving me full custody, he would put $100 a month into a savings account for our son. It was all too funny. I torn it up and told him stuff it. He was not pleased by my reaction. He has gone to play some stupid little game with some friends of his and I am about to go out for drinks with the girls. He is not happy that I am going out, but I told him "what is good for the gander, is good for the goose". He stomped out of the house and then threw a fit when he saw that I had put one of those Club devices on the steering wheel of the car. I very calmly told him it was my car and I just didn't feel comfortable letting anyone else drive it. His friends came and got him. I know it seems like I am being very childish, but he wants to play this out in this manner and I am just playing along. It is almost comical how civil we are being to one another. We haven't yelled at each all day. We have said some nasty things but always in very polite voices. We have our first therapy session on Friday. Oh, and I am going to the doctor too. I think I have a raging case of PMS and I need some serious meds to control it.