Do you admit your mistakes and feel 'sorry' for that?
By dpk262006
@dpk262006 (58678)
Delhi, India
July 4, 2007 12:41am CST
Dear Friends, do you feel bad when someone points out to you your mistake(s)?
Do you unhesitantly admit your mistakes and say 'sorry' for that?
Or do you prefer not to admit your mistakes...because if you do not accept your mistakes...there is no need to say 'sorry'. Do you feel that admitting your mistakes will lower your self-esteem and it will hurt you?
How do you react when others admit their mistakes and say sorry to you?
I on my part will immediately admit my mistake, if I have really committed any and I would not be hesitant to say 'sorry' for my silly deed(s). Even if I have to admit my mistake in front of my juniors or even my kids...I will admit it and convey my feelings.
Please share your thoughts on this.
Thanks in advance!
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38 responses
@kyutstudph (1263)
• Philippines
6 Jul 07
Yes I am very sensitive about that. If I feel like i commit a mistake I admit it and say sorry to the person whom I made a mistake. Its good to have humility at some point to be able to make your personality grow as a person.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
6 Jul 07
I can guess that you are good human being.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
12 Jul 07
I can assess from your replies that you a nice person will not hestitate to admit your mistakes, if any.
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@vani24 (783)
• India
5 Jul 07
Hi Deepak,
Very nice discussion, Well, i never hesitate to tell sorry to someone if the mistake lies with in me, i would definitely come forward and admit honestly. And i really hate such people who never admits even they have done wrong. Well, one thing i observed is when ever we try to hide the feelings to tell them sorry or to accept that i have dont this, they are very much tensed and that whole day its a very pathetic feeling for them , but the moment we admit and tell them what all happened and say sorry for the mistakes we committed infront of everyone it really releases full stress and makes us feel very much happy...Thank you so much deepak, for posting such a lovely discussion...Good luck and happy posting Bye and take care:))
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
6 Jul 07
Dear Vani! Hi!
I completely agree with you that after having said 'sorry' we feel stress free...othwerwise...we keep on thinking and thinking again about the whole issue.
I am very sure about you that if the situation demands...you won't be hestitant to admit your fault(s) and say 'sorry'. This positive trait of yours not only makes you humble but it raises your positive image, in the eyes of others.
Thanks for appreciating the post!
Keep it up!
Good Morning and have a great day!
Deepak
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@coolcat123 (4387)
• India
5 Jul 07
whenever someone points out some mistake in me ,i feel very happy for them coz this is the only way i come to know rather realize my mistakes which i soon correct...this way I increase my good things on bad ones.
I always accept my mistakes and never argue with the
person ,its me who is the first to say sorry always...coz i feel sorry never leads me down instead the other feel much better from my single word-SORRY.
and when some other person says sorry to me....I say never to be,bcoz in friendship no sorry and no thanx.
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@coolcat123 (4387)
• India
9 Jul 07
dpk,even ur so friendly n caring,u care 4 a lot of friends here at mylot.
but these days,sorry is of two types...meaningful or serious and one without meaning that is useless.
soory isnt a heavy word these days.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
10 Jul 07
Priyanka, Well said. But I think..you are wise enough to distinguish between a serious 'sorry' and a casual one. You have the intelligence to assess who is saying 'sorry' with seriousness.
Have a nice day!
Deepak
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
6 Jul 07
Dear Priyanka,
I agree with you ...that we can only learn when someone points out our mistakes to us.
I am sure that if the situation demands...you won't be hestitant to admit your fault(s) and say 'sorry'. This positive trait of yours not only makes you humble but it raises your positive image, in the eyes of others.
Keep it up!
Good Morning and have a great day!
Deepak
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@apsara60 (6610)
• Israel
16 Aug 07
oh yes definately, If I will not confess my mistake and not say sorry to the person whom I have hurt, I will not be able to live in peace. I cannot sleep with guilty consious. Only after I make everything clear and wash out my fault with my tears and make up again with that person, then I get peace of mind.I always believe in clean consious. My reactions are very much similar to yours, while admitting my mistake. People who have courage to come forward and accept thier mistakes are actually very brave people and I am sure God love such people. Nice discussion.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
5 Sep 07
You are always welcome!
When we are alike we tend to develop a kind of bond between ourselves and that helps us a lot!
:) :)
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
30 Aug 07
Thanks for the wonderful thoughts! You are in fact very nice at heart and I feel very lucky to interact and communicate with you, I always feel comfortable when interacting with the friends who are like me.
Have a nice day!
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@artemis432 (7474)
• Abernathy, Texas
17 Aug 07
Absolutely I do - for my self esteem -- I resprct my self too much not to be honest. I have a baby and I want to teach him open communication and honesty. By the same token if having a discussion there is a disagreement about I will concede to another's poit of view those times when I realize the other's point is something I had not thought of and makes sense.
What a great idea for a discussion.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
30 Aug 07
Thanks for liking the discussion!
Thanks for your wonderful thoughts! You are in fact very nice at heart and I feel very lucky to interact and communicate with you.
I always feel comfortable when interacting with the friends who are like me.
Have a nice day!
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
3 Sep 07
I readily admit my mistakes when I believe that yes, a mistake has been committed by me, unknowingly or otherwise. I mean when I can clearly see the mistake, how can I argue and try to escape responsibility. However, I am also careful to note that nobody passes on their faults as my mistake (there is no dearth of such people). In such cases, I very clearly state my point and even if the guilty person will not accept, I am not bothered. I just say my mind and this has a calming effect on me. Otherwise, when I am genuinely at fault (there is no controversy here like ‘my point of view, your point of view’) I definitely own up and try to be more careful next time. and yes, I do feel bad inside for my carelessness. Its not so much as to what the other person says, its more to do with anger with myself… its like I have failed myself in my expectations.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
5 Sep 07
Sudipta! Hi!
Thanks very much for your admissions, and for fair, frank and bold response. I appreciate your reply. I agree with you that if we are at fault, there is no harm in accepting it. Also, we should be careful, as you pointed out, that others should not shift their fault on our head, we should be assertive to defend ourselves, when we are not at fault.
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@syain1972 (1011)
• Singapore
5 Jul 07
I am the type who would admit my mistakes and say sorry for it. It's always better to say sorry than being egoistic about it. I guess it's just my nature...:
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
Hi friend, Yeah I do admits my mistakes If I know it and If someones told me that I commit a mistakes I will make sorry directly. Coz sometimes of course as much as possible we not intend to do mistakes but without in our knowledge and presence we don't know that we hurt or done something wrong. Saying sorry is not an excuse to lower a self-esteem, saying sorry means to be true to oneself.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
6 Jul 07
Dear Lyn, I know you are very positive and a nice person and I am sure that if the situation demands...you won't be hestitant to admit your fault(s) and say 'sorry'. This positive trait of yours not only makes you humble but it raises your positive image, in the eyes of others.
Keep it up!
Good Morning and have a great day!
Deepak
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@lynboobsy11 (11343)
• Philippines
6 Jul 07
Thanks for the nice comments,
have a nice day too, and take care...
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
6 Jul 07
You are welcome! Thanks for appreciating the comments.
Have a nice day!
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@alpine_007 (1469)
• Pakistan
6 Jul 07
yes, i always feel "sorry" for the mistakes i do and the mistakes which i have done in my life. i unhesitantly admit my mistakes if i think that it was my mistake.
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@lexus54 (3572)
• Singapore
5 Jul 07
Sorry can be a hard word to say sometimes. But for me, if I know I am in the wrong about something and it hurts the other party, I will readily say sorry. It is a humbling experience sometimes, but people will respect you for it.
Just think about it: the word "sorry" can have powerful effects sometimes. The mere utterance of this one word can break down barriers between the offending and aggrieved parties, and evoke forgiveness quickly, and resolves a stalemate.
I sometimes wish more people around will be ready to say sorry whenever they have wronged someone. It's like the other magical word "thank you" to express gratitude. The world will certainly be a better place if we hear more of these all around us, because when people have it in their hearts to readily express such words, their relationship with others, including strangers, will be more positive.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
6 Jul 07
I am really impressed with your reply. You have written very honestly and beautifully...you heart out. Thanks very much for your humble thoughts and may your wish come true!
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
6 Jul 07
Well said. Simply superb and wonderful thoughts by you. I am really delighted and very much pleased with your positive thoughts.
Thanks Again!
Deepak
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@lexus54 (3572)
• Singapore
6 Jul 07
Thank you for the compliment. The words are sincere, and came from the heart. There's so much violence and hatred all around us these days. People readily hurt others when provoked. At times even just a slight provocation sparks off a disproportionate reaction. For these people, I think "sorry" and "thank you" are gestures that are lacking in their hearts.
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@teretecho5 (190)
• United States
6 Jul 07
Do you feel bad when someone points out to you your mistake(s)?
- No. I don't feel bad just make sure it's not in front of many people. There's room for telling my mistake but not in front of many people. :)
Do you unhesitantly admit your mistake and say sorry for that? or Do you prefer not to admit your mistakes...because if you do not accept mistakes...there is no need to say sorry.
- Yes. I do admit my mistakes if I really committed one but once I don't commit any mistake why should I say sorry. I may say sorry If I offended someone yes but the mistake that they're pointing to me, nah. :D
Do you feel that admitting your mistakes will lower your self-esteem and it will hurt you?
- No. Admitting mistakes will not lower my self-esteem. It actually shows sportmanship. It also shows that you are strong and have the courage to admit what you have done wrong. There's nothing wrong when admitting your mistakes. d;)
How do you react when others admit their mistakes and say sorry to you?
- Well, I admire them. d;)
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
6 Jul 07
Thanks very much for your admissions, and for fair, frank and bold response. I appreciate your reply.
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@wotfpatty (2065)
• United States
3 Sep 07
Sure, if I make a mistake, I will apologize if need be. I have said I'm sorry millions of times and meant it. I have no problem telling people I am sorry for a mistake I made. Because I really AM sorry. I sometimes do things too fast or forget things or hurt people's feelings without meaning to and I am always sorry when someone tells me I did those things or anything that was a mistake on my part.
I don't think I ever tried to get out of saying I was sorry by not admitting a mistake. I probably apologize too much really but I think it is better than not acknowledging that I know I erred.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
5 Sep 07
Thanks very much for your admissions, and for fair, frank and bold response. I appreciate your reply.
I appreciate your point that asking for 'apology' will ultimately going to help us.
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@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
3 Sep 07
Although I am a stubborn person a lot of the time, so I will not generally ask for help, I will always admit when I am wrong or have made a mistake in some area.
I'm not at all ashamed to apologise and do my best to correct, or make right, what I have done.
I don't feel hurt by someone pointing out my mistakes, or by admitting them, though I do feel bad for hurting another through my actions.
When somebody else apologises to me for their wrong-doings I am quick to accept and forgive, if not forget. I appreciate the gesture, and if they seem genuine, I cannot hold them responsible any longer.
We all make mistakes.
Great post =D
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
5 Sep 07
Thanks very much for your admissions, and for fair, frank and bold response. I appreciate your reply.
Thanks also for appreciating and liking my post.
You are so sweet and nice!
Have a nice day!
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@mimpi1911 (25464)
• India
4 Jul 07
They say, 'Sorry is the hardest word" but for me its not in the least. i have always adimmted my faults andsaid sorry whenever i felt that i was wrong. may be, initially, i was hyper and grouchy but later on i did agree. i am a very submissive person and sorry is a sweet word for me. on the contrary, when i am being betrayed or someone cheats on me i just can't ignore it. i get angry tremendously. obviously, hypocrisy turns me off.
i really appreciate your thoughts and i feel, admitting to younger ones is more important as it gets exemplary to the kids.
thanx, deepak.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
6 Jul 07
Dear Mimpi,
I can vouch for you that if the situation demands...you won't be hestitant to admit your fault(s) and say 'sorry'. This positive trait of yours not only makes you humble but it raises your positive image, in the eyes of others.
Keep it up!
Good Morning and have a great day!
Deepak
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@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
4 Jul 07
yes, it is easy for me to admit and say sorry if i know and im aware that i have cause to someone, and if that person is close to me, but if not, i can still say sorry,but there is a bad feeling remain, like i was just forcing myself to say it. If the case is i am not aware of what happen and i need to say sorry because all fingers are pointing in me,it would be really hard for me, but still i can say it but not by heart, you know what i mean.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
5 Jul 07
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. I know you a nice and positive person, who knows when to say 'sorry'.
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@subathra (3519)
• India
4 Jul 07
I will admit my errors and ask sorry.I have never felt bad in asking sorry.Actually its a big word to spell which will erase the hard feelings who ever have on us by our mistakes.It has the power of forgiveness so i dont mind telling sorry.
Good to note that you admit your mistakes even before your kids.you are a good dad and your children are lucky to have a open minded father like you as i have seen some parents dont admit thier errors infront of their kids fearing whether they might loose their dignity.
@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
6 Jul 07
Dear Suba,
I agree with you and I am sure that if the situation demands...you won't be hestitant to say 'sorry'.
This positive trait of yours not only makes you humble but it raises your positive image, in the eyes of others. I caanot say whether I am good Dad or not...but I do not hesitate to admit my mistakes and say sorry to my juniors also.
Keep it up!
Good Morning and have a great day!
Deepak
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@touchnshine (2821)
• India
4 Jul 07
Dear Deepak
I don't feel bad when someone points out my mistake .. I feel thankful to that person .. as because then only I will know my mistake and will rectify it. I admit my mistake only when I feel that I had commited any .. but if I think that there is no mistake from my side .. then I will never ever commit it .. but if the person who is hurt by my behaviour or my words is close to me .. then I simply admit it as mistake just to please my close friend/relative.
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@dpk262006 (58678)
• Delhi, India
6 Jul 07
Dear Priti,
I appreciate your approach...that you do not feel bad, if someone points out your mistake....
Yes, I agree...when you do not have committed any mistake...there is no point in accepting it.
You even bend down...to please your near and dear ones...that means you cannot see them angry with you. That is great on your part!
This positive trait of yours not only makes you humble but it raises your positive image, in the eyes of others.
Keep it up!
Good Morning and have a great day!
Deepak
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@andrejuly84 (1047)
• Romania
11 Aug 07
sometimes is quite dificult for me to admit in font of other persons that i was wrong,that i made a mistake.and much hard for me to say really sorry for that mistakes.know isn't the right attitude but just so i feel to do in that moment.can't always recognize my mistakes.
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@eprado (1467)
• Philippines
11 Aug 07
I do admit my mistakes and feel sorry for it if I have committed them. There's nothing wrong with having to say sorry for mistakes that one have done and it does'nt make me feel low or hurt to say it to someone younger than me. I guess some have a hard time admitting their mistake, as a saying goes, "It takes a strong man to admit his mistakes".