When you became a parent did you lose some friends?
By Jade27
@Jade27 (67)
United States
July 4, 2007 3:16pm CST
I did not exactly lose my friends we just do not have that much in common anymore. My friends go out and do things that I can not do all the time, like go to bars. We do not speak that often anymore, although we are still friends. Now that some of them are starting to have kids we talk more. Do you think that kids tend to replace friends?
4 responses
@micheleg34 (141)
• United States
5 Jul 07
I don't think kids replace friends. You just have different priorities when you are a parent. Friendships change and grow as we change and grow. We lose old friends and find new ones for a variety of reasons. After I settled down and got married and had a child, most of the friends I saw on a regular basis were those who were also married with children. That didn't mean I loved the old ones any less... We just had less in common now. When I was divorced, most of my friends were also single parents. Now that I am remarried, I am back to married friends with children. Of course, you also have friends that you will love no matter what you do or don't have in common. These are your best friends, and though there may be times you drift apart, these friendships last for life.
@ms_anti_valentine (85)
• Philippines
5 Jul 07
i think so..my bestfriend is soon to be a mom,and just felt like im losing her..ofcourse she'll focus more on her career as a mother,we can no longer hang-out,because 1st thing 1st is her baby.there will be no disscussion bout the new cuttiest guy in town,latest outfit,make-up's,everything that a single person love to talk about.i just miss her,and all the things we used to do.
@Cassy1976 (796)
• Australia
4 Jul 07
We have an almost 9 month old daughter and we havent really lost alot of friends, we still have all of the same friends we just dont see them quite as much as we used to, when you have kids your priorities change and instead of going to that party on the weekend and staying up half the night I am more concerned about getting my daughter home to her bed so that she can sleep enough and not be grumpy the next day!
