Deep trouble

men this is a serious mesa.tell your girl to go for an abortion since she dont know who the father is.and also if the pregnancy is above 3 mouths she should not go for the abortion instead she should tell every one the truth

abortion isnt the answer im sorry for her situation but in a way she got into it herself if her fiance doesnt take it well maybe you and your girlfriend could offer her support as in a place to live or emotional support she will need it

ur girl friend's best mate should have thought all this before doing such things.. now ask her to fact it..

Its really hard to be in that situation of your gilfriends best mate.But I was just curious why she does'nt even know the father of her child? that's unusual. The best thing that she can do is to tell her parents no matter how strict they maybe. Parents will always understand as long as she ask forgiveness and accept her faults. Abortion always comes first in the mind to solve the problem. But its not right aside from its dangerous. At her age she will put herself in danger if she commit abortion. All she has to do is face reality its not easy I know but that is the best thing she can do.

The girl should be honest in good timing. Don't bother to cover for her, because if you guys try to hide it, it'll only blow up in your faces. After that her parents will have a moment of not trusting her, but they love her and should recover. The fiance on the other hand may be a different story, as his love for her may not be as conditional for her as her parents'. Every action has a consequence, but DO NOT lie about it. Obviously this girl has issues that need to be worked out. IMO, if the guy walks away from the relationship, can you blame him? Infidelity is a horrible thing to go through, but hopefully he will stay because he loves her. Now that that's out of the way, the abortion is her choice. She is the one that needs the guidance about what to do with her own body, not her friends, but she is lucky to have great friends looking for the best way to help her. Kudos to you on that. Now, since the abortion is illegal, it will not be safe for her to have one in the first place. The "doctors" that carry out abortions (in your country) will not be licensed to do such a dangerous practice and most likely will not be properly equipped either. There is a greater chance of your precious friend getting hurt from the abortion than going through with the pregnancy. If she truly does not want the baby, she can give it up for adoption. That way the girl will not risk a dangerous operation that could kill herself and the baby. I hope you all find peace and happiness no matter what happens. Good luck!

That was not a simple problem. I think even her parents is so strict, she still need to tell it to her parents. Maybe her parents gets very angry but it was just in few days after she tell it to them. After that she must also face the problem to her boyfriend. Its really hard to keep a secret for a long time, so whatever may become the result after she tell the problem to her boyfriend,she need to accept it. If you think abortion is the solution, for me its a No No because its like killing a person.

Come on folks, she is 17. She can hardly vanish for a while off to an abortion clinic, maybe out of the country in her case, without letting everyone into the secret. She has to tell her parents and she may get away with telling her boyfriend that it was his fault 'cos his letters were REALLY sexy. haha I guess she will have to have the baby and will need the support of friends and family for a long, long time.

I can't say that there's a perfect way to help her out, other than giving her plenty of options she can think of. Yes, abortion IS an option, as well as adoption, and even keeping the kid. Strict parents can be strangely understanding if things are explained right, so that might not be as big of an obstacle as you think. There are always plenty of ways around a situation, you've just got to sit down and think about them, not jump into it irrationally. Good luck with everything, I hope it all goes well for her, and you as well.

oh men! that's a big trouble indeed. hmp... i guess she must say the truth to her fiance... huhu... i have something on my mind but its not the right thing to do. by the way... how many months is she already pregnant? and how come she doesnt know who's the father? hmp... does her parents know she has a boyfriend? grr... im 17 and i can feel the fear on her situation.

well, in the first place why did she let something like that happen to her? to think she has already a fiance? thats being unfaithful!! and according to you she doesnt actually know the real father? so that means she didnt just slept with another guy but some other guys too? hmm.. and abortion is not the solution, she must be brave to face the consequences, she must be ready for the blows, real soon she have to talk to her parents about it same w. her fiance.. and if she can make her fiance understand and then its good, and if the fiance understands and loves her he may even 'take' the child as his own right? what u can do guys now is just to be there for her and guide her..

it is very complex problem. so if i were her i will face all peaple my parents and my fiance.i know it is difficult thing but it is better than kill her son by abortion.that is my opinion

uh oh. well it was something she got herself into. i cant help you on this.