Ex-wife to be
By RONI55
@RONI55 (9)
United States
July 5, 2007 3:11pm CST
How do I get along with my boyfriends ex-wife-to-be?? They have been separated for almost 5 yrs and still going thru the battles of the divorce. She is the Queen of Delay Tactics.
She has no life and has no desire to get this thing over with. She has trapped 2 children in this mess.
I have tried sincerely to contact her and express my desire to be decent to each other. She has physiological issues so I don't know how to help her. I just want to try and to help the children and make my life and my boyfriend's life more peaceful. Any suggestions?
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2 responses
@EvanHunter (4026)
• United States
6 Jul 07
I have to agree with the first post. The best thing to do is not to get involved with her at all. The way she is acting she is definately still hung up on your boyfriend if she was truely over him she would be indifferent to the whole situation and just want to get done with it. Trying to be friends with her will definately come back to bite you in the rear worry about your boyfriend and the kids not her or having any kind of relationship with her.
@RONI55 (9)
• United States
26 Sep 07
Thank you! I need to focus to just do the best I can. She definitely avoids me and will not allow me even in the vehicle when he picks up the kids or there is a huge scene so we just work around that. This becomes an inconvenience many times but it seems like the best way. Such baggage! =-))
@micheleg34 (141)
• United States
5 Jul 07
My husband has an ex wife with psychological issues too. I have found the best way for me to deal with her is not to deal with her if I can help it. We very rarely talk at all. My husband deals with her as far as pick ups and drop offs and other kid related issues, but we try our best to have very little contact with her. Otherwise, I might say or do something that would upset the kids, because she seems to think I'm the devil and its her job to make me as miserable as possible. Since cutting down on contact with her, I find my life is much more pleasant. Every once in awhile I will get word of her saying or doing something that makes me really mad, but for the most part I just ignore her. There are just some people in life you CAN'T get along with. As for the kids, just be there for them. My stepkids know they can come to me with anything. I play with them and do crafts with them, and try to make sure they at least have a stable home life when they are HERE. I never try to compete with their mother, and I never say anything bad about her in front of them. There's not much I can do to make them happy at her house, but I can make sure they are happy at mine. Hope that helped, and I wish you the best of luck!
