Do you think lying to yourself is bad?

yes i sometimes lie to myself...it makes me feel better sometimes...

I don't think lying to yourself is ever a good thing. If you lie about what you really want, you will only get hurt in the end. If you lie about how things really are, e.g. "I still love my boyfriend, I enjoy my job.." the truth will hurt even more when it comes out. It always does in the end.

Hmm...interesting question. I might bring this up next time I have lunch or meet up with my church friends and see what they think! I take lying pretty seriously and don't do it, at any cost.. but lying to myself? Hmmm! I guess it would depend on what. I wouldn't lie to myself over something very serious because when you lie to yourself you might start to believe it and then you might end up misleading others. And isn't that how one defines a pathological lier anyway? Someone that starts to believe their own lies? Eek, scary. I think I do lie to myself sometimes..."these jeans are so cheap, and they totally don't make my butt look fat!" and things of that nature. LOL. I honestly do lie to myself unconsciously (in relation to boys too) but I thinking that's fine. When we embarrass ourself and then tell ourselves that it wasn't so bad (when it really was) - things like that, I think it's mostly in the mind, and a way to sort of console ourselves when we need it. It's not like lying to someone else, where we do it to either trick someone or not take responsibility for something. I think there's a difference there.

I can't speak for others when I say this, but I can share my thoughts and veiws on this matter:) I think that every ones lies to themselves at some point in their lives, it is natural! To lie to your self, is to be in denial! At some point in our lives we go through a situation where it is easier to be in denial than to accept the truth. In my case I have experienced it before in a relationship. I would find myself making excuses for something that is clearly seen by others. It sometimes hard to accept some things that happen to us, that’s because we don’t want to suffer the consequences of them. With my ex boyfriend, I was told on several occasions that he was fooling around, and I would tell myself that people were wrong, that they were just trying to ruin a good thing that we had, that they were simply jealous of my happiness! Boy was I wrong! I held on tight to my denial for over a year! When it finally came clear to me was when he decided to be honest and told me about it, just before he packed his bags and left, I was really angry at myself! Although my friends and family tried to help me to see that things were happening in my relationship, I didn’t believe that he would ultimately hurt me, I choose to lie to myself! When it finally came time to accept the truth, it was too hard for me to cope with! When I look back on it, I could have dealt with it easier if only I accepted it sooner! Nonetheless, it is a bad thing to “lie to your self” because no matter how much we do it, we will still have to accept it sometime! I believe that it is ultimately easier and better if we accept things as soon as they come along because the longer we prolong the truth, the harder it will impact us when we finally decide to accept it!

I lie to myself all the time, when it comes to my weight issues. I've been fat. And, I've been skinny. But, most days I simply don't have the time to eat the right things or exercise the way I should. If I spent all day obsessing over my weight, I'd have no time to take care of my little kid or post on My Lot. So instead, I tell myself that my weight is fine, and I'll take care of it later. I've been telling myself the same lie for three years. Some things never change, I guess.

Surely is bad. My ex-boss is one crazy old woman. She keeps on lying to herself. Well one must have a group of good and close friends and they for sure will not lie to you. One or two may tell a little white lie to make you feel better but most of them will not want to harm you. So it is always better to be able to consult some of your friends on your opinions. Like the old woman I'm saying, she keeps on thinking she is so nice and angelic and does everything right. No matter how you tell her or anybody wanted to help her, she still lies to herself to say what she did was right. She's really good at making excuses for herself. So what happened? She is the joke of the town and not too well liked. She never had close friends but she thinks she does. Crazy old woman that one...I really pity her... But I don't want to be near her... yucks...

I think when people lie to themselfs yes it does make them feel better but yet at the same time they get used to that and do it often which isn't a good thing.. So yes i do think lying to yourself is a bad things. You must be strong though to believe and people just need to be strong about certain things.