when you will say ENOUGH!!!

what will you do if you have excess baggage? of course , leave it or dump it!why would you carry some things that you do not need? if i were you, which i was in the same situation before, is simply tell her that yo udo not have any extra money to lend her, how would she know? and just let her cover up for her shortcomings in life.keeping quiet rather than biting back is the best option to deal with her .smile baby!don't worry about it , that is her problem not yours! you have your own life to deal with.it is just going to be a waste of your time and energy even just to think of her or even talking about her.

Sounds like they are taking advantage of you for sure. It's funny how when you lend the first time (being family and all) and then when they ask again and you say you don't have that kind of money, they turn around and backstab you because of it. I mean how rude is that! You need to tell her that you don't like what she has been saying behind your back. Sisters are not suppose to do that to each other!! If she doesn't stop, then I would probably start distancing myself from her. That is not what I call sisterly love. You are not her bank and even though you helped her out the first time, doesn't mean you are obligated to help her out again (even if you don't have the money). She is very selfish sorry to say.

i had an unpleasant dealing with an old friend because of the same thing. he borrowed money because he went abroad just for the heck of it. at first he borrowed 2000 bucks which at that time was okay because i had that set aside for my savings. and then he asked for more and i told him that i didn't have much and i only have a few bucks which i had set aside to pay my credit card bill. he said it was okay he was going to pay it 15 days after anyway so i thought it was fine. i trusted him. now 2 months have passed and he hasn't paid the entire thing. our friendship is so over. so i think that there are really people like that and we just have to watch out for them. i know lending out of your good heart is great. the thing is, even if all your intentions were good, some people would just not requite that goodness. just let it go. anyway i'm sure your family knows you more than anyone else so don't bother if she talks trash behind your back. anyway she's making a fool of herself when she does that.

you are not a bank!!!!!! remember that!!! i would gently remind her about the money that she still owes you and then i would give her some other options (such as other relatives she could sponge off or actually going to a bank for a loan)... she might want to 'borrow' the money off of you because she knows she doesnt have to pay you back...be careful!!

If you don't mind my saying so- she already proved she won't pay you back- from the first loan- so if you did say that- that is was the truth. Let you sister depend on themselves for once. They are getting to travel abroad and you are getting the bill- how fair is that!

Once you started to give you the more they will ask and expect. You've already given them and they should be thankful for that. I agree that you should also think about your own family coz you'll never know what will happen the next day. just don't pay attention to what they say about you and say nothing.

i think you should more careful when lending money to people, although your owm family member. the main factor that make situation worse is the borrower and the lender have family relationship. they take it for granted. honestly, i really hate this kind of person they make me sick.