Teenagers

My son is 14, so you've got a couple of years experience on me!! We've had our ups and downs since he was about 12. He's a beautiful young man, with lovely manners and respect for all. However, there are days when he pushes me to the edge. I've found that taking a step back, and seeing an issue from his point of view helps us. We then have a discussion on our differing views, without anger. If I see him getting angry, I tell him we can't discuss anything while he's in that mood and I leave the room. Also talking to friends that have older children and have gone through this, helps immensely. Good luck, regards, Soapy

All you can do is try to keep the line of communication open between you and your teen. When he brings up his views that you disagree with, don't argue with him, just tell him that you don't agree and state your reason why. If you get into argueing about views that you don't agree with, you will push him away. It is a tough time for the kids and the parents. Try to take it one day at a time.

my son is 16 years old also, and i am just here with a listening ear and a guiding hand. i treat him now as a friend, i listen on what he wants to say and i demand he listen to what i say as well. i told him that is respect. when you want people to listen to you you have to listen to them as well. he have his own views for a teen is like that... as we are when we are teens. let him discover the world around him and just guide him n everything he does. if he is wrong dont boast him around but instead mold him to learn from his mistakes. my son is quite a headache when he was 14 and 15 now he is ok... goodluck

oh ketybhagat I have one of them, hold on grit your teeth its a long ride.lol I think you have to stay calm and focused. Its a bit like an amusement park ride with good,bad and scarey bits. I wish you luck as I understand how you feel and will eagerly wait to see what advice people give you. I hope that I have taught my son enough about life that he wont fall to hard and one day remember we all are on his side and we love him.

There is nothing you can do, you were a teenager once also. This is the period of his life where he is trying to discover himself and its a long ride. In one way its a good thing he is standing up for what he believes in, if he makes the wrong decisions, he will learn from his mistakes and eventually he will coming running to you for advice, just let him know you are always there for him if he needs you.