When it comes to courtship, which is harder to do - to court? or to wait?
By krizcruzado
@krizcruzado (316)
Philippines
July 6, 2007 4:04am CST
Often in our context (culture)in the Philippines, courtship is viewed as the man's responsibility to go after the girl he likes. Even if the world gets modernized the deeply rooted culture says that girls should just wait to be approached. Some Filipino women do not follow this anymore as[we] they think that both men and women have equal rights. However, most guys still prefer to approach the girl than to be appraoched. Now, because we do not want to be tagged as "cheap" the thing that we do is wait... it's hard to do it actually espcially when you like a guy and the most that you can do is pray that he'll have an eye on you. We think guys job is easier when it comes to courtship - they just approach the girl they like and that's it, while on the girl's part, waiting is being painful and frustrating. So, any idea or insight that you wanna share?
1 response
@chrissymadam_simple (173)
• Philippines
6 Jul 07
It depends upon your belief about expressing your feelings but "having the guy doing the first move" is the only thing that is acceptable to the norms of our society....people would then discriminate if the girl will have the first move...for me, it's indeed frustrating when all you have to do is wait but it's also a way of measuring one's love of a guy to girl.
@krizcruzado (316)
• Philippines
7 Jul 07
Must be... the thing is am really wondrin how guys feel when they have to appraoch a girl. I wanna prove my theory that when it comes to courtship or liking a person, girls have or are always in the hard position. Thanks for the response.
