Learn how to say No!
By tafzvjjdjd
@orbeltadz (506)
Baguio, Philippines
July 6, 2007 4:14pm CST
Sure, it's flattering that people still come to me for all sorts of favors and rely on me for various things. I do appreciate the trust and the thought that they count on me. But it can take it's toll sometimes. I don't like to appear like I'm complaining, but see, this saying yes to people almost all the time, does make me break promises one after another. I just can't say no and keep a straight face to people. The more I can't face them and say I've failed in my attempt to do so much things at the same time.
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@derek_a (10873)
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7 Jul 07
Sometimes, you can help people a lot more in the long term by saying no, than by saying yes. I know it can be very difficult and I have often ended up feeling mean.
One rule I have and that is, if I make a promise I will move hell and high-water to keep it. Because if I break a promise I have made that means I am throwing myself into a worse conflict. Saying one thing and doing the opposite has subtle repercussions at a subconscious level, that ends up causing minor stresses, put together, all these minor stresses become a major stress. Learn to say no, where appropriate and it will be easier to keep promises. Like everything else, it gets easier with practice, but practice is essential.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
7 Jul 07
It is really not easy to say no to people if you are a moderate. I am such a moderate. I usually say yes to them though unless I have to say no. I will still say no moderately.
