Your teen daughter is pregnant. What would you do?

Malaysia
July 6, 2007 10:27pm CST
Suppose that your teenage daughter is pregnant is she said she wasn't even sure who's the father. How would you react to that?
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@xkristalx (230)
• United States
7 Jul 07
Woah. I wouldn't know what to do! I would take her to a doctor to get her checked out and make sure everything is okay with th pregnancy. I would also try to help her figure out who the father was by a timeline of who slept with and when. Ultimately I would support her in whatever route she chose to take for the pregnancy. I would most definately make sure she always had birth control in the future though!!
• Malaysia
7 Jul 07
You are such a loving person and not being selfish, I sense that. Giving emotional support to your daughter at the time she needed most will actually create a bond of everlasting respect and love between you and your daughter. She would really appreciate your help and understanding and will really learn from her mistakes.
@carolscash (9492)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I would be very shocked and hurt. I have raised her to know better than this and she should love herself more than to sleep with more than one person at a time. She would need to figure out what she was going to do and how she would care for the child. I would be mad at her,but I think that I would be there if she needed me as we all make mistakes and she would have learned a valuable lesson.
• Malaysia
7 Jul 07
You should understand first what is happening at the moment. Being angry at her won't help and it would only leave a huge bruise of hurt in her emotionally. She was so desperate at that time and you should do something to comfort her, and not finding faults. Anyway this is a free world and you have your own opinion. I hope you all the best.
@disvachic (10117)
• United States
7 Jul 07
Hi ladysurvivor if i found out my teen daughter was pregnant i would definitely start crying but it will be something we would have to deal with.If she didn't know who the father is then i would have her sit down and think about the guys she slept with and figure it out with who she think could be the one.We would just have to get Dna test done with them all.I hope this will never happen to my daughters.I have one that will be 13 in a couple of months and the other one will be 10.My son will be 12 and i hope he doesnt get nobody pregnant either.Take care.
@jasgirl (79)
• Canada
7 Jul 07
Hey ladysurvivor, I really wanted to respond to this post bcuz when I was 16 yrs old (now I am 27) I became pregnant with my highschool bf's baby. My mom did not sit down with me at all about asking my feelings, opinion....she forced me to have an abortion before I even had time to think of my feelings i no longer was pregnant. If my teenage girl came to me I would sit down the two of us and let her know I was there for her~get her into a Dr to find out how far along, options, health....and would work it out 2gether.I think if she wasn't sure of who the father was, it would be a worry to put on the back burner for now until everything else was figured out or planned if that makes sense. I truly wish my mother would have done these things with me and would have been more supportive than she was. I send my blessings to you:)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 07
Thanks for sharing. I am actually shedding tears while reading this. You really touched my heart. Yes, love is most important in everything we do. My mother is the same as you, she doesn't have the sense of understanding my feeling. Now that I am married and having my own choice of life, I would surely discuss everything thoroughly with my daughter.
@icedventi (155)
• United States
7 Jul 07
As someone who grew up thinking that her parents were never proud of her, I'd try to be supportive of my daughter. Everyone makes mistakes and while this is a pretty big one, it's not the worse thing in the world. Once that baby was born, I'd make sure she figures out who the daddy was and make sure that he helps her take care of it. But like I said, I'd make sure my daughter knew that I still loved her and she still makes me proud and nothing will ever change that.
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• Malaysia
7 Jul 07
Yes, I agree to that. Love is the most important thing. People make mistakes all the time. There's always room for forgiveness and improvement.
@her0ic (46)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I would be in shock and I would have mixed feelings of anger,anxiety, and a whole bunch of other horrible stuff. But I wouldn't be mad at her you know she made that choice and she is the one who has to deal with it I would be there for her in every way I could but I wouldn't be totally upset with her and it also depends on how old she is etc
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• Malaysia
7 Jul 07
As a mother we still love our daugher no matter what. That's the right thing to do.