Do you easily forgive and forget?
By msvenzon
@msvenzon (424)
Philippines
7 responses
@pramodthakur (2365)
• India
7 Jul 07
It is not easy for me to forgive someone who has caused me pain. Most of the time I revenge by non-violence mode. On small matter only forgive. If someone tries to make me full, I leave such person for ever. I do not maintain relation with such foolish guy. I try not to make fool to other and also not to harm others by any means. I keep myself busy on my personal matter. I am introvert type so very rare chance of making fool to others. I avoid giving trouble to near and dear. If once accepted someone as a friend, I carry the relation.
@derek_a (10874)
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7 Jul 07
I feel it is essential to forgive any wrong-doing as the only person that you are hurting is yourself, when you direct blame/hatred towards another. It is not always easy, but I think each of us should strive to forgive others - it doesn't mean that we have to have contact with them, just let is go, and feel less stressed. :-)
@msvenzon (424)
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
I'd like to thank you for your reply and a very good advice. You right when you said whenever we don't forgive we are also hurting ourselves because we waste our time with hatred. I hope I'll find it in my heart to forgive and forget easily next time.
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@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
7 Jul 07
I'm pretty sure that most of us have been fooled or betrayed by someone/people. But when it comes to forgive-and-forget thought... I really don't know.. As for me, I can forgive - but I never forget.
I think we should just be careful in trusting people..
@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
18 Jul 07
Co-exists.. Maybe. In my part, I will always remember someone who did something awful to me. I forgive them, but I will never forget what they did. That means, I know better than to give my full trust on them because of their mistakes in the past.
@msvenzon (424)
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
I guess you are right, we really should be careful who to trust. With regards to forgiving and not able to forget, someone told me before that if you can't forget why bother to forgive. Maybe it co-exists. It really is hard in my part especially whenever you remember the things they've done. I hope it's easy to forgive and forget. Thanks for the response.
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@socorban (650)
• United States
15 Jul 07
I forgive easily but never forget.
To forgive is wise and just in heart, but to forget a lesson learned is to throw away experiance and knowledge earned.
Ive had plently of lessons learned the hard way with people. And yes i have forgiven each one, even restored trust in some. But to forget what happend and what one learns from it is foolish. To forget the experiance is to forget the solution as well.
@msvenzon (424)
• Philippines
20 Jul 07
Wow, what deep words you said. It is indeed true, it really takes time to forgive and forget. I do have a hard time. And trusting is not that easier anymore. We really need to forgive but it is hard to forget everything. If only I can reformat my brain just to forget. =) But then again, we learn from this experience and helps us grow wiser and stronger.
@liyan97 (2127)
• Northern Mariana Islands
7 Jul 07
It is easy for me to forgive but not to forget. I have been through it many times before and although I have felt like I have been betrayed, I can’t find it in myself to “hate “that person.
Within time, I begin to forgive although my heart still aches, I have been brought up in believing that the lord forgives us all fro our mistakes, thus is why we should be able to forgive others!
Even when I forgive a person, I will not easily forget, there will always be a part of me that remembers the hardship and pain that I have endured. And although it is easy for me to accept that person back into my life, things would never be the same!
@kyutstudph (1263)
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
At first it is really hard for me to forgive because I get hurt. I believe the person I trust most will not do it but if she/he does then that's the time I really having a hard time to forgive but time heal wounds so as time pass by I still forgive the person but not easily forget what has happened. It takes a lot of time to forget since we are just humans.