company rules
By punlonnjack
@punlonnjack (1308)
United States
July 7, 2007 11:54am CST
I have a full time job and own a business.I had a situation at my full time my work place.A co-worker that worked with me stole a construction job from my husband (the company we own) after we had hired him to work for us.He called in sick (the place where i work)the next two days. I found out some companies dont allow people to take sick days to do other work else where. This so called friend/co-worker hurt my family by stealing work that was suppose to benifit us. I was so hurt and upset i finally spoke with his boss about the situation....he got almost got fired and did get suspended . Now that i got my so called revenge I feel ive done something wrong....what would you do at this point?????????trying to make things right or let it go.....I personally feel i have never brought on problems for other people but i couldnt deal with this person stealing money from us and hurting my husband i had to stand up for what i thought was right........what do i do now?
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10 responses
@Dan_ul (858)
• Romania
7 Jul 07
Rules are made to be broken... it's sounds arrogant but it's true... so I don't know if you did a good thing or not... but shouldn't you think about that before you did it? cos revenge is not a good thing even if you where upset... god doesn't like the revenge thing:P
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@beautyqueen26 (16030)
• United States
7 Jul 07
You mean the man stole from your family and you feel sorry that you showed him up for the thief that he is? Well, don't! Because I can promise you that he didn't feel one bit guilty doing the bad deed. That kind of person needs to be exposed to others so they don't get scammed too. That incident will most likely go on his permanant work record and he won't get a good job reference. But, then again he made a really bad mistake. If he had wanted the construction job so bad, couldn't he have spoken with your spouse about the possibility of having it, instead. Maybe the answer would have been negative, but at least the man would have shown his intentions to be honest.
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@dragonstar13 (1465)
• United States
7 Jul 07
There is a relationship and a certain trust between employer and employee (to say nothing of friends.) For this person to go behind your back and take the job was dishonest. And his lying when he called in sick was no great feat of honesty either.
I think you need to sit this person down, explain why what he did was wrong, how he has broken your trust and won't be working for you anymore.
I would also contact the client and find out why he hired the other person when you had an understanding that you were going to do the job. He may tell you, as was mentioned in another response, that your prices are too high or work standards too low. If that is the case you may want to take it as constructive criticism and make adjustments.
Or he might not have known the other person was working on his own. In that case, word of mouth about his integrity will help to ensure he doesn't steal jobs from anyone else.
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@fuzzEbluebathrobe (378)
• United States
7 Jul 07
Have you ever taken a sick day when you were not sick? Better look over your shoulder next time.
I am afraid that even his boss just kind of thinks of you as a tattle tale and probably thinks less of you eventhough he had to check out your claim. You now have a bad reputation where you work.
Besides this person could not have stolen this job from you it had to be given to him by the client. Does he do better work for less- is he more reliable? The worst scenario would be if he charges more and the client thought the work he did was worth it. The client must have thought he was the better choice.
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@punlonnjack (1308)
• United States
7 Jul 07
i just want to comment that the job was started and a verbal aggreement was made we let the guys speak to the client we dont know what was done or said but we lost the second part of the job. the principal of the matter is we where friends. i dont blame anyone for trying to make a buck but he worked for us. we paid him very good money i feel he stabbed us in the back and i want closure?answers?why?what happened ...i regret telling but how would you of handled it? i tried being nice asking his wife what happened she just threatened me and said and i quote YOU DONT KNOW WHO YOUR MESSING WITH? JUST A BAD DEAL ALL THE WAY AROUND.we felt we where robbed.AND WE ARE GOOD PEOPLE .but when something like this happens how do you let it roll off your back. we lost 2,000.00 dollars because of someones distrust.
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@Minesky (245)
• Philippines
7 Jul 07
What you did is right. He has no ethics!
Let's put it in a different scenario. Your co-worker is in dire need of money, and he needs that job to answer that problem, without your company sharing in the income. The need is family related or health related. If this was the situation and he asks your company's permission to do this job on his own, would you say yes?
When he hid it from you and your husband, he did steal from you.
No need for you to feel bad about it. At least now you know who that person really is.
Go forward and learn from this lesson.
Cheers!
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@wachit14 (3595)
• United States
8 Jul 07
I don't think there is anything more you can do. I believe you did the right thing and you didn't let this person get away with something that was clearly wrong.
By not saying anything, what would stop this guy from doing something like that in the future? I know you feel bad that he got suspended, but he still has his job. Maybe now he'll think twice about trying to take what is not his to take in the first place.
What goes around, comes around and apparently, that is the moral of this story. Don't feel any more guilt over it. Just be proud of yourself that you stood up for your rights.
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I don't think you did wrong- the man stole a job from you? What he didn't tell your husband and went and did the job alone? I think this is what you mean- If it is against the rules- it sure is against the rules of friendship- I think you just don't tell him anymore about any jobs and don't consider him to be a good friend.
@friendship (2084)
• Canada
8 Jul 07
I think you should stay away from this person. He doesn't have any ethics whatsoever. Unfortunately, your co-worker only think a short-term period satisfaction. If I were you, I wouldn't want to know him anymore. If he can backstab you once, he will probably do it next time.
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@handsomevm (144)
• India
8 Jul 07
I feel that what you have done is absolutely fine.......you need not worry....it was that persons fault...n he got wat he deserved....see now wat you can do is that if he was a really close friend.....then go to him n tell him that wat he had done was wrong.....n if you feel then you can tell him tat you would give him a one more chance......no do this if you feel so....else jus forget it..n dont worry.....if ppl cant learn to accept the truth then its their problem.
@tsnadeer (88)
• India
8 Jul 07
yes you did right decision on that your co-worker , but in my openion that you have to appoint full time worker for your company not hiring anybody for part time job, the same you are doing wrong because you are hiring somebody from another company indirectly you are making problem other company, so the same person who hired by you will make you problems.
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