I need advice, guidance and prayers....
By JoeDeath
@JoeDeath (142)
Philippines
July 7, 2007 12:46pm CST
It has been years since our family has not been in good terms. I myself am not in good terms with our father. All my siblings hate our dad. He has never been a good father to us. He may have been successfull in other things but never with our family. We never had a childhood life, we grew in fear and not by love. I'm not asking for apologies from my dad, I simply want him to change and work on his loss when we were children.
2 responses
@larusso420 (32)
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
I understand you. I have seen a lot of not-so-good dads. Sometimes it reaches a point that the children really suffer because of the father's being irresponsible. It is really pitiful but on the brighter side of life, the children become independent ...the sad thing though is the angst that they have towards their father.
You said you have a successful dad (say a breadwinner but not a father). I don't know but it's a little better than having a good for nothing dad (jobless, beats up mom and kids, grrrrr)... I don't know exactly what to advise. Just I am thinking, you just try to stay away from him and don't talk negative.
@peavey (16936)
• United States
8 Jul 07
JoeDeath, forgiveness is one of the hardest things to learn. I used to think that I couldn't forgive until/unless the offender asked me to, but that isn't so. Through the love of Jesus, we can forgive. There is so much pain in this world and your father is not exempt from it. We are all broken, incomplete and none of us can claim that we have never hurt another human being. I'd like to just say, "Get past it," but I know that isn't easy. Probably the best thing for you to do is pray for your father. Not that he would change or "work on his loss," but that he would come to know the fulness of God's love. I will pray that God will show you how to forgive, for your sake and for your father's.
