his atittude, i cant stand it anymore!

There are a lot of places around the world that can help women like you... some are called 'friendship homes' others are 'womens shelters' - they put you up in a house, give you free room and board (and your baby stays with you of course) and help you develop skills to make it on your own... whether it be getting you enrolled in college or helping you find a job. I STRONGLY urge you to look for one and give them a call... it sounds like you're in a really bad situation, and trust me, it will NEVER get better.... people like that REALLY CAN'T CHANGE! I've been there, done that... thank goodness I didn't have a child with him.... but it IS hard to leave... Please get some help and they will show you (from the outside) what kind of situation you are really in and get you out before something REALLY bad happens!!!

at least you have found oud his true clors now it,s time to move on for you and youe kids this man is not going to change but you have to change and let him do he shouldn,t be hitting on you he could hurt you are your children.my advice to you is to get out.

Kick him to the curb! You and your children deserve so much better than him! Trust me, it will be hard, but not as hard as trying to cope with his antics. I've been in your situation, and I stuck it out until I had to be hospitalized with an anxiety attack. don't wait for that. Move on and find the nice man you deserve.

I think he is taking advantage of you. Tell him that you have taken a strong decission to leave him and wait for his responce even he did not change just kick him out of your life and be happy and lead a happy life. "ALL THE BEST" and finally welcome to mylot

hiiiiiii i think the best u should do is tro leave that person n do something to stand on ur foots. just ignore him u should know u r the one who is gonna decide wat u want u can start something anew an start a new life there is never a late when u want to start sometrhing i think its better if u leave that boy.......

I'm sure you have gotten many different responses to this. I just recently got out of a situation like this. I was with my last boyfriend for almost 8 years. He is very verbally abusive if things don't go the way he likes. I have a daughter with him, although when I got pregnant I admit he was not like this. My daughter is now five and beautiful as the day is long. But she can't be a child when he is around. His mother was abusive and he wasn't allowed to play as a child so it seems it has passed on to him and now he treats her the same way. He has an awful attitude and very short temper. When you break up with them or say you are going to leave, they always apologize and say it's their fault and they dont' know why they are that way. Mine even went to counseling and that didn't help. Whatever. But you really need to get out while you can and get the help of family members to keep you strong and away from him if you care about your son. You don't want your son to adopt the bad habits and verbal attributes of this man. If he is a drunk, all the worse for you. Come on now, you just had a baby and he was drunk. Did he care that you gave birth to his son? Obviously not. Move on ASAP!

Hi and welcome to myLot, Now you clearly know what this man is like then why are you still with him. If not for your own sake but for the sake of your baby boy you need to get rid of this man. Sounds like he is just taking advantage of you and if your not careful he'll start doing it to the baby when it is a bit older.

oh yeah, i sympathise with you. it's rather unfortunate that he has added an additonal burden on you and at no position to carry responsibility. i think you can take him justice ministry where he'll be held for shunning responsibilities and will be charged for that. maybe he'll change. I wish you the best of luck and safety delivery of your child to be.

Dump him! Do you really want your children to grow up in this environment?? He will not change for you or anyone else. He has to want to change for himself and actively seek help for his problems. You are being abused, and your only choice is to get out now before it gets worse. Seek help from a women's shelter if you have to, but you must get away from him before he seriously hurts you or the baby. Men like this are charged everyday with killing a child because they get frustrated and lose control. Don't do that to your baby.

i think you should get out of the realtionship, if you stay and it continues what effect will it have on the upbringing of your child and also your child should see you happy, which you are not obviously, children can pick up on tension and distress, please have a long hard look, i mean if you know what he is like and has promised to change and has not, then its a vicious circle, GET OUT while your child is still undamaged by the going on's around them, i wish you luck and send you love Louise x

hello... open your eyes, if your sleeping please be awake, you knew already that the man in your life is no good, he is not worthied to be given so much attention and love,...how pity you are, well take good care of yourself and your baby, if i were you i will let him out of my life even if have a baby...

hellojosh02 i can really see that you really love the guy because inspite of his bad attitude you accepted him over and over again. From the first time you saw his true color you should have thought of the right thing to do. You shouldnt have thought only about yourself but consider your children growing up with that kind of father. Honestly he is not a good example to your children.