Would you get a "friends" tattoo?
By wiccania
@wiccania (3360)
United States
July 7, 2007 4:56pm CST
My best friend and I have been best friends for 18 years. We started talking recently about getting together in 2009 to celebrate 20 years and getting matching tattoos. The time frame allows us plenty of time to work out a design that we both like and that's meaningful to both of us.
Would you do something like this with your best friends?
I'm just kind of curious if anyone else has considered something like this.
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19 responses
@freak369 (5113)
• United States
7 Jul 07
If someone would come into the shop and ask for a friends tattoo I would try and talk them out of it - the same way I personally refuse to tattoo names of wives, husbands, boyfriends, girlfriends etc. You never know if or when that relationship is going to sour.
That's just me and my opinion, I can't stop the other artists from doing what they want. Yours would be a special case though, 20 years is a long time to be friends :]
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@Juanamomof5 (429)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I can't consider it since I have a horrible fear of needles. Let me explain. I cann't wear jewelry because of allergic reactions to it, so my husband and I decided that we would get a tatoo wedding band instead. Well we went and they were tatooing someone and I about passed out, so that was the end of that.
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@quatelmon (955)
• United States
7 Jul 07
Awww....don't be afraid of getting a tattoo! I only have small ones, but there is really no need to fear! The pain is minimal compared to the years of joy you'll get from looking at it. It's more like someone scratching you kinda hard than anything else.
@Sushicook (690)
• Sweden
7 Jul 07
Exactly! As long as they're small and on locations with some muscle between the skin and the bone it really doesn't hurt. The pain is in my opinion equivalent of taking a needle and scratching it against your skin without leaving a mark.
Is it the sound that made you feel uncomfortable? A friend of mine wouldn't mind a tattoo, but she can't stand the sound.
@Juanamomof5 (429)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I'll try and get the courage to go again, but that moment left an impression. I will work on it.
@quatelmon (955)
• United States
7 Jul 07
I think that's an awesome idea! Especially after 20 years. I think that as long as a tattoo means something to you, then you should go for it!
I want my mom to get a matching tattoo with me, but she doesn't want to. I talked her into getting her belly button pierced, so maybe it will just take a little more convincing. :)
Good luck!!!
@inked4life (4224)
• United States
16 Aug 07
I've been trying to talk my sistet into getting a matching tribute tattoo for our Mum. She flatly refused at first but is slowly coming around to the idea. I think it's only a matter of time before we do...I just hope I have some space left to fit one by the time she decides...LOL
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
25 Nov 07
Hopefully you do have some space left by the time your sister decides to go for it. Tattoos are so addictive aren't they!
@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
25 Nov 07
Honestly if I were going to get a tattoo with a friend I would get her to pick a tattoo that she liked and wanted, and I'd do the same. I wouldn't get the same one though, maybe I'd just get it in the same spot. Reason being that nothing is forever! Who knows what the future holds, in 5 or 10 years you may not be friends with that person anymore! Just my opinion anyhow!
PurpleTeddyBear.
@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
26 Nov 07
I have seen cases where people have been friends for 10 - 15 years and then they drift apart, or something ends the friendship! You believe really strongly that your friendship will last so go for it then. Good luck to you!
@wiccania (3360)
• United States
25 Nov 07
I would concede the "in 5-10 years you might not be friends" point if you were talking about people who'd only been friends for a year or two. But when you've been friends with someone for 20 years, best friends for 20 years. Through some major fights and tremendous life changes... There will never be a point in our lives that we're not friends.
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@Sushicook (690)
• Sweden
7 Jul 07
I really like this idea, and it's a great reason for getting a tattoo. I would probably do the same if my best friend was up for it, and me and my boyfriend have already decided to do one a couple of years from now.
Do you have any thoughts on the design yet? I sometimes get commissioned to design tattoos, so it would be interesting to hear your ideas!
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@wiccania (3360)
• United States
8 Jul 07
Well, so far we've talked about if we did a "story of our friendship" type of tattoo all of the things that would have to be incorporated... halloween (we became friends on halloween), chocolate pudding, preferably flying (before we became friends she started a food fight at school by nailing me in the face with a cup of it), chocolate ice cream, the phrase "shhh! don't tell," les miserables (because i started her love of musicals by taking her to see it)...
Considering how convoluted something like that could be, we're thinking about just doing the sea turtle/frog thing.
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@animejosse (256)
• Sweden
7 Jul 07
I... might be up for it. If it wasn't for 1. the sound (Aiiiieh!) and 2. my grandparents would disown me, and right now they're kinda more important than a tattoo XD Maybe in a few years?
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@ElusiveButterfly (45940)
• United States
16 Aug 07
I am getting a tattoo to represent my 50th birthday. My sister encourages me to get it. I have never considered getting one other than this.
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I defintely would not consider something like this. I can't really be friends with people for too long because they end up turning against me, acting childish, talking behind my back and generally just lying about everything under the sun. Never fails really. Friends are friends. I don't care how long we've been friends, it just wouldn't be something I'd consider because then I'd have to get it removed later on, which is something that I'd definitely not want to do, nor would I want to stare at it all the time.
@adidas7878 (1891)
• United States
9 Sep 07
that is tough one, but i think as long you dont put someone's name on the tattoo it should be fine, personaly the name on it can get tough to get out if for some reason down the road thing did work out, it would come hard to get it off
@cmsk2005 (1770)
• United States
23 Aug 07
I like to see tatto on others rather than doing some on me, I have fear of needles and I do not want to hurt me that way. I like the idea though but not may be of my friend but anything else which is my favourite, anything but not my loving friends, families or even my cats. Just like flower or something like that.
@raychill (6525)
• United States
8 Jul 07
My best friend passed away and I have a tattoo in memory of him. However, it's not an obvious rememberence like his name or anything. It's not something anyone would get unless I tell them what it is.
However, I think the "best friends" tattoo is a great Idea and I know a ton of people who have those kind of tattoos.
If you're looking for advice, my best advice to give you would be to make sure it's something unique and creative and suited for both of you. Make it subtle, not something obvious like "mn+nt=bff" or something like that. Since tattoos are permanent...and friendships aren't always (but after 18 years, you have a pretty good chance of permanent friendship) you should consider the possibility that the relationship could end, but the tattoo will still be there. Hence the reason for subtlety as well.
For example, I know some people who have the maryland flag shaped into a crab. It's both a tribute to Maryland...as well as a tribute to their friendship.
Another example is two friends who got identical star tattoos in the same place.
Unique and Subtle are the best ways to go.
@xkristalx (230)
• United States
10 Jul 07
One of my friends and I got matching stars tattooed on us! Even when we have our ups and downs I still love the tattoo and It reminds me of her and the good times. The only time I really see it though is when I am with her because we got them on the back of our necks!!
@dimaks (786)
• Japan
18 Aug 07
well, i myself is not into tatoos but i appreciate arts being put into by the tatoo artists. i think tatoos are good only when your skin are still young and intact. when you grow old, so do your skin and they become saggy. hence the design may not look the same as it was before. but then, just my opinion.
@tattooedcrafter (79)
• United States
16 Aug 07
I would never do anything like that but my best friend is my husband and I would never want to get anything matching or what not becaue its bad luck instead we get tattooed together and share those memories.
@EZhang (165)
• Singapore
18 Aug 07
When I was young (8 years old), I used to tell my friend how I would like to go exploring the world and different countries with her when I grow up. But now, I think I would prefer watching about the world and different countries on TV. And I absolutely hated the Spice Girls for saying "Friends Forever!" stuffs like that, because it's too impossible to be true to believe in when you're backstabbed and betrayed by that someone you trust and counted on since 8 years old.
@scarywhitegirl (2766)
• United States
8 Jul 07
Generally I think that any sort of relationship tattoo can be a bad idea, but I have also heard people justify it by saying that a relationship is a part of their life, and even if it changes later, the tattoo is still a good memory of what it was like.
I only have a couple of friends who are into tattoos, but we're all different enough that it's pretty unlikely we would settle on one tattoo or theme that we would all like. My fiance is an artist, and he has designed tattoos for a couple of us (I haven't gotten mine done yet), and a few of us all go to the same artist, but that's about as close as we might get to "matching" tattoos--designed by the same person and inked by the same person.
@punjabirapper (59)
• Pakistan
7 Jul 07
U know wot i love tattos, but ma mom dun allowd me to have a tatto on arm.
@abiesm (373)
• Vietnam
8 Jul 07
It's cool ^^ you too have a same tattoo ^^
truthfully I'm scared of get a tattoo . My best friend too . We're just teens so both of us don't get used with it.
But I have to admit that some tattoo I've seen is beautiful . And what you and your best friends did together is great .
@xkristalx (230)
• United States
10 Jul 07
I have known a girl for about 9 years, we do have matching tattoos, but is not something that someone would realize was part of something else. We both just have stars on the backs of our necks, we aren't really close anymore, but I love the tattoo. I say go for it, just dont have something like "FRIENDS" written in the middle of it.
@Malyck (3425)
• Australia
16 Aug 07
I have considered doing this a few months ago with one of my friends (friendship spanning 5 years, on and off),
and whilst we are no longer as close as we were, I don't think I would have regretted it had we gone through with it (which we didn't), because the design was beautiful and it would always have sentimental meaning.
I strongly discourage getting and name tattoos, but considering the time that the two of you have been friends, and the time span you've allowed yourselves to find something that you both adore, I think you should go for it. =]