how to deal with your partners relatives?
@angel_of_charm (4134)
Philippines
July 7, 2007 10:05pm CST
i was just done arguing with my bf because of his abusive relatives, he has been working 18 hours a day all week all because he needs to send them money for their needs..needs meaning for his cousin's tuition, for their everyday expenses and all the bills you can think of..i'm trying to point out that they are not disable for them to find some work and not just wait for him to dens them money while they are just sitting aroung and make their balls larger..they are even demanding, when he fails to sne don time they start to complain..he doesn't even have time for me because he always work an donly time he had was sleep for couple of hours then work..
i wasn't been complaining not until few years ago, this relatives had done something that made me hate them..they tried to keep us apart by telling us all lies..they try to ruinour relationship by saying each one us had someone elses..and that this relatives had been bad mouthing on me..they even wanna call me b*tch,reason why i don't like them anymore..
now we are fighting again..i wanna think we're back to normal..few years ago after that incident we broke up and now we're back in good terms..they are starting all over again..
2 responses
@Juanamomof5 (429)
• United States
8 Jul 07
Sorry to say but his family will try to do everything they can to keep you apart. The thing is they don't want to loose their gold mine. He is the only reason these people are probably eating and they don't want to fend for themselves. I hope things get better but they won't until your bf steps up and tell them he will not be supporting them anymore.
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@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
i know it's true..i kept on saying that they will never gonna learn how to deal with life if he wont start teaching them how to..but he never listens..i also said he was like an ATM machine so they would cash out whenever they like..he wont stop srguing with me regarding this matter..
@Juanamomof5 (429)
• United States
8 Jul 07
I think that sometimes our loyalties to our family tends to blind us that we don't realize it when they are using us. It's hard for us to accept that they aren't the people that we think. You will probably get no where with telling him about his family, he will probably alway be on the defense when it comes to them.
@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
i have been thinking about this over and over again and i hope it will not lead me to one day i want my way out of this relationship..i just thought he was being selfish and to make me see and feel i was nothing compare to his family when it comes to his care and attention..
@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
8 Jul 07
If I feel I like my partners' relatives, I will actively make friends with them. If I don't like them, I will talk a little with them. I don't actively visit my partners' relatives, except in Spring Festival. It is a traditional festival day, most of daughters and sons go to their parents' house, and people often visit all their relatives, although they don't like to do it.
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@angel_of_charm (4134)
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
*hush* i cannot do that anymore as i dont wanna pitty on myself no more..i did my best to take part on this issue but this is just way too far for me..i learn to fight the good fight..they dont like me then i dont like them more than they ever know..
