what do you do when its been a long time

I am kind of going through the same thing right now. It's been almost 8 weeks since our relationship has been back to normal. For 2 weeks he had some guy move in with him that I couldn't stand, then after that his 12 year old brother lived with him up until the point where he moved 250 miles away and then stayed at a friends for 2 weeks til he found his own place. He was free for one week so I was with him alone for the first time in about 5 weeks for about 2 days, then after I leave his 12 year old brother returns for 2 weeks! I feel like he's pushing me away. Our conversations are terrible. He doesn't say much about anything except for Yeahs and Nos and when I call him to say, "I think we should just end it" he goes, "Why? I don't want that." We've been together for 6 years. I think when you get to the point of comfort perhaps things aren't the same. I have said the same thing to my hubby "You're cheating on me." ect And he has said, "If you believe that then why are you here?" I have shrugged too. I think he could be jealous or afraid to lose you because things have been tough lately, but doesn't know how to express. Surprise him with your love! Be someone to start up happy rituals in relationship. Who knows he may be inspired to think of things too. I haven't been close with my partner in a long time either. We use to spend ALL the time together, we did everything from shopping to movies, to just sitting together, making dinner for eachother, ect. And now it feels empty without him... :(

I have known my boyfriend for about 7 years, we have only been dating for the last few, but 7 years is a long time to build up baggage. Our relationship had hit rock bottom and neither of us were happy. We started going to relationship counseling offered for cheap at one of the colleges nearby. It has help tremedously. I really do reccommed it to everyone in any sort of relationship weither or not you are having problems because it just helps you to be so much more empathetic and understanding. I feel my boyfriend and I talk to each other a lot more now than at each other.

I was with my ex husband for 30 years before I finally ended it,my marriage was going down the same road your relationship is going, useless conversation that I was supposed to be intrested in, he never wanted to go anywhere or do anything(unless it was hunting season). I spent many years asking him to change and the responce was always the same 'ok i will' but it never happend. I finally realised he was never going to change and i had a lot of life left in me to to sit there and waist, so I divorced him and am now remarried to my soulmate and very happy.

well.. my advice to you is if you really love him, try to talk to him and work things out. try to ask him why are your relationship like that. i guess if you two talk about that and clear things out, there is a chance that you two can be like as before. but after you talk about that and still there's nothing happening, i guess it is up to you on what decision to make.

go to familylife.com and go to the store... look up simply romantic nights. Try this with your spouse. It's helped out my marriage a lot. I don't really have other ideas for you. The Dr. Phil relationship workbook and book are pretty cool too! It shows you how to get the other party to treat you better with only changing your behavior.

i have not really been to a long relationship but when i see my mom and dad, it is enough to make me believe that there are really people who love each other for the rest of their lives... one thing that i have observed with my mom and dad is that my mom makes things exciting for them, my mom is the type of person who is really hard headed and my dad is the one who has a lot of patience in understanding my mom... but even though my mom is very naughty like a kid.. she remains loyal to my dad... she does things just to spice up the relationship... relationship is a communication whether it is seen or not as long as the message run across... if people don't know how to communicate may it be in a simple or in a creative way.. it is useless.. be like friends, just you were before... :D always take care girl, remember that one of the hardest thing to repair is a broken heart, you might not consider things important until they are out of your life

Sounds both of you get bored now. I think both of you need to refresh, i mean create something new which both of you might enjoy. Say have more activities wherein both you might have more bonding, have time for sport or have a tour together. Reminisce your pasts, those happy moments and those things both of you enjoy. Be open to your partner, have a good timing in telling what you feel and try to know how he feels about your relationship too.

I stay and work things out with my partner to have the beautiful things that i pas with my partner