are you willing to be FRIENDS with your ex BF/GF and why?
By jen_n514
@jen_n514 (218)
Philippines
July 8, 2007 11:22am CST
personally speaking i am willing to be friends with my ex BFs....actually my former BFs are my FRIENDS now...except the last one ... bec we just broke up 3 weeks ago and we haven't talked since then..so i cant still consider him as my friend as of the moment...BUT I AM WILLING if given a chance....
my former BFs are so special to me even after the relationship bec. we shared alot of good times together and even though things didnt work out for us...i still value and treasure the things that we shared esp. the FRIENDSHIP...and i dont want to waste those things just bec we didnt end up together...maybe we are not meant for each other as COUPLE but i believe we are meant to be FRIENDS...:D
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19 responses
@Sushicook (690)
• Sweden
8 Jul 07
I would always give him a chance, unless he had abused me or we had grown too far apart. I'm very close friends with my ex-fiancee, we talk almost everyday and are closer now than we were when we were still a couple. Both him and me have had relationships after our breakup, we've met and befriended our new loves without a problem.
@maiax2k6 (535)
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
no. i don't know why, but i'm not friends with any of them. maybe they were not worth keeping, even the memory of them i leave behind. they are closed chapter and we move on to something new. friends come and go - no big deal, that goes for boyfriends or girlfriends too.
@paradise12 (938)
• India
9 Jul 07
I am willing to be friends with my ex-bf if i had broken with him mutually or when i broke with him easily without any pain...Its good to be friends but there should be no interference which used to be in the previous relationship..There are people whom we cannot understand and even if we undersatnd then there won't be compatibility..I think we should consider this fact and be friends..
@marklol (7)
• Jordan
9 Jul 07
what if he doesnt give another chance? Will you be happy with the other friends or will you still wait for the last BF for the rest of your life
@libra007 (7)
• United States
9 Jul 07
My first BF and I remained BFF until we both got married to other people, and he moved out of state without telling me (the rat), but I know if I ran into him again, we would still be tight becuase we shared soooooo much!
I see nothing wrong with being friends with your exes unless they caused you physical or mental harm. After all they had the good sense to date you at one time so they're not that bad. An ex does not = disease.
@jharish2k4 (416)
• India
8 Jul 07
Hey jen you're perfectly true...i don't think there is anything wrong in being friends with my ex's too...i've just one(LOL)and we do talk with eachother even today...it is good to stay in touch with them and know they're living a happy life too :-)
@a_ce_e (1422)
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
I think it depends on how both of you broke-up. Sometimes, when you split up with your bf/gf with bitter event, there will be no room for friendship and move on without them. However, sometimes two of you just separate because both of you feel uncomfortable as bf/gf and more comfortable being friends, a good FRIENDSHIP can be established.
@memz2000 (16)
• United States
9 Jul 07
I can honestly say that I have only had 1 bad break up. He was no good anyways. But as for my other ex's we parted on good terms. It bothers me if I feel like someone that I had a close relationship with has negative feelings about me. I have been done wrong and hurt many times. I just feel like life is to short and precious to waste on negative feelings. I would speak to my ex's if I saw them out. Yes even if my husband was with me. When I care for someone it forever.
@babostwick (2036)
• United States
8 Jul 07
It would depend on how we broke up. If it was mutual, then yes it can work. If it's nasty, then probably not. All in all, it mostly depends on how things go. That's all I can possibly say on that at this time.
@migenKC (792)
• Philippines
8 Jul 07
me.. i dnt... amm.. i dont know why but i just dont like..
maybe we can have some Hi and hellos but not as friends..
i dont have an exboyfrien who is my friend now...
i had an exboyfriend who had been also my friend after our relationship and after 4 months of being friends... we again commited our self to each other as boy and girl friends.. hahai... he's the only one my heart wants to be with as a BF or even as a friend...
@batintin_ecinaj (2)
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
it would definitely depend on your break-up.if the break-up is mutual, then it would be good to stay as friends.but if the break-up wasn't a good one (a third-party involvement perhaps),then it would be best to let time heal the wounds...personally, i would want to stay friends with my ex BFs, but being friends would not necessarily mean that you're on the friendship level right after you broke-up,,of course,,you have to let time heal all the wounds first..
@jazzygdc7 (285)
• United States
8 Jul 07
After I broke up with my grifriend, I still remained friends with her. I would consider being friends with my ex girlfriend as along she is nice to me and she doesn't give me trouble or any hard times. Sometimes I feel that a friendship may be better than a relationship because it is less stressful. I also feel that I consider being friends with my ex girlfriend because during my relationship with my girl, I had many good memories and fun times with her.
@krishkorp (427)
• India
8 Jul 07
i would have loved to but it is a very tough as k on your emotional psyche for it puts a lot of stress on ur psyche .if u were not involved so much in ur past relationships it is easy to be friends with them but if u were attatched to ur partner then it is going to rake some old issues over and over again causng more trouble than happiness that u seek from their friendship.Thsi is my experience.What do u say?
@saierchok (1294)
• United States
8 Jul 07
it really depends on the way we broke up.. and on the degree we used to love each other.. if the relation ended with heartbreak of either of us then it's always hard to be friends because seeing each other without having each other is always painful for one of us.. if the relation ended rationally and with the choice of both of us then we understand each other and are able to stay friends forever..
@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
8 Jul 07
No, I am not friends with any of my ex's.They are ex's for a reason. I prefer not to have them around me at all. I will speak to them if I see them out on the street someplace, but thats it.I have nothing to talk to them about. I want to put them in my past.Too many bad memories for me.
@icedventi (155)
• United States
8 Jul 07
I was friends with my first boyfriend for awhile after we broke up but everytime we hung out, he'd assume we were back together and he's try to kiss me or something. And he's end up calling me crying and telling me how much he loved me. Blah. So I ended up finally having to just stop talking to him. Which was a huge weight off my shoulders. I've had pretty nasty breakups with all my other ex-boyfriends so there was no chance of us remaining friends. And I'm glad for that.
