How Should this Situation be Dealt With?
By khalablue
@khalablue (309)
Canada
July 8, 2007 3:29pm CST
4 Women have gone on weekend vacation trips together for many years. Two of the women are sisters, one is married to their brother, and the forth is the best friend of one of the sisters.
When they travel they take turns making and paying for the hotel room. When the bill arrives it is divided into 4 and 3 of them pay the 4th their share.
Last year one of them was stricken with cancer and in April of this year the 4 went on what was to be their last trip together. She died before being able to pay her share to the member of the group that paid the bill. However, one of the others has funds in her possession that belong to the deceased member. This person is aware that the payment hasn't been made, and had been directed by the deceased member to pay it to the one who was owed the money. This has not been done and the person who has the money wants to give it to the deceased persons daughter.
What would you do if you were the person to whom the money was owed?
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7 responses
@jillhill (37354)
• United States
8 Jul 07
Personally I wouldn't even think about it just chaulk it up to giving the deceased her last big fling and be proud of the fact that we did it together. Money has a way of breaking up families, friends and companies....it truly can be the root of evil. If you are strapped and need the money very badly I would discontinue going on the trips. But in reality I would be proud to see her daughter benefit from the money now that she doesn't have a mom to be with her.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
9 Jul 07
What a sad and complicated situation and that too among relatives and friends, who should be sticking together in this hour of grief and loss. For the time being, I think all should forget about the money and pray for the departed soul instead. After some time has passed, the subject can be broached directly yet gently to the daughter of the deceased, since it’s her liability now to pay her late mother’s dues. The other two surviving members of the group (apart from the one that has the money) will vouch for the truth of the matter and the daughter should pay up, whether she gets her mother’s money or not. It’s a question of protecting her mother’s honour!
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@MGarcia (330)
• United States
9 Jul 07
I honestly think that the last trip should have been a trip just for the now deceased friend. The money should go to the daughter.
However, I do not feel that the fourth person should be stuck with the entire owed amount. I believe that the amount should be split up into equal amouts of three and the other two should give their share to the fourth person.
@GardenGerty (160665)
• United States
9 Jul 07
How sad,that she did not get to make her final vacation. Unless I could not afford to absorb the cost, I would let it be, and not cause any fighting or bitterness. If I could not afford to be out the fair share, then I would appeal to the remaining to to divide it in thirds, since only three of them went. I am afraid this is probably the end of he trips, if fairness cannot prevail.
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@tholitz (1127)
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
It's really sad that this had happen. Luckily they had spent one last trip which can be accounted as their memorabilia of their deceased friend. I don't think that money matters anymore with this situation, what was far more important was the memory that they had with their last trip together. Maybe ,in my own opinion, the 3 friends that was left behind could share together to paid her bill, and the money she had left behind could be given to her daughter for any help it could bring to her.
@bambi_doe (566)
• United States
9 Jul 07
If she went with them and it was to be paid then I would have to say that the person that has the money should pay the bill off or bill the daughter for the amount. The member did say to pay her bill off so that is what should be done. hugs
