How do I say no to my three year old without getting a tantrum?

Your girl is testing your limits. She wants to know how far she can go, and what you will do to stop the tantrums. By giving in to her you are telling her that you are weak and unable to take control of the situation. This not only causes immediate problems but teaches her that "no" never means no if she wants something bad enough. When she gets older she won't have the tools to cope with failure or want. It's best to ignore her when she does this. Make sure she's safe(can't hurt herself throwing a tantrum) but otherwise don't respond to her negative behavior. good luck Force

We would just ignore them and let them carry on throwing a fit then would let them know good behaviour was rewarded with treats and stuff tatrums got nothing. There was never negotiations with them it was mom and das way or nothing. they are three for crying out loud whose the parent there anyways. If you gotta sit and negotiate with a 3 yr old you are the parent and being a child is nto a democracy it is a dictatorship until they know how to act like a proper person.

Yes i understand your problem and normally all kids at this age behaves like this and there are no other methods to bring them down except to calm them down and make them understand the situation. All the best.

hai i also had the same problem. i got one kid he is now 3years old. When he saw his mother is not careing to him he will suddenly take some glass and put it down. while we two are talking togther. same also in the bed he want to lay down between us. what can i do. we can execuse as childish things

I agree with how kids really insist on the things they want. I have2 kids, a 2 year 9 months old and a 1 year old. They both drive me crazy especially when they start throwing tantrums. When this happens, I simply address the issue. If its a "no" I stick to it. Discipline is case to case basis. Sometimes if they really draw the line, I let them know who's the boss inside the house. It works very well because now they are aware when they do silly things. Rules inside the house is very well - imposed at an early age. When they get older, things will be different. I suggest you get a copy of "The one minute mother" by Spencer Johnson,M.D. You will get good insights and enjoy your role as a mother. It gives you ideas on how to show love and care to you children at the same time train them to be good and happy individuals. Good luck to us!

You mentioned that your child will throw a tantrum or whatever until she gets what she wants. This is the reason as to why she keeps doing this. She knows that if she whines,asks repeatedly, or throws a tantrum that mommy will eventually give in. This is not good. This is setting a bad example for her, she will expect this from everyone and not everyone is going to give in. Be firm, if she can't have ice cream til after dinner, stick to it. Yes she will still whine,kick, scream, tantrum or whatever it is she does, but in the end as long as you stay firm and stick to your "No" answer she will realize that, that behavior isn't getting her the same results anymore.

I guess it's something that we as moms have to deal with until they grow out of it. Just never ever ever give in to what she wants. Doesn't matter how long you say no, if you give in and give it to her - THAT'S what she is going to remember and know that she can do it again, and again. If she throws a tantrum you will need to sit her in some sort of time out. That is the fastest way she will learn she will not get her way and she won't like having to do what you say. I don't mean for a long time, maybe five minutes at a time if she behaves herself, she is still really young. Just talk to her calmly the entire time she is in time out and explain to her why. Most important thing to remember is that if you continue to let her rule over you instead of the other way around she won't be able to earn the respect for you that you deserve. Respect is a very big thing in any relationship, especially a mother and child relationship. You can love her, hug her, be there for her but still play your role as a mother. Good luck *hugs*

You can't. Toddlers throw tantrums-it just goes with the age. You can minimize them by giving choices when possible, by NOT giving choices that aren't possible (ex: Don't ask "are you ready to go to bed now?" unless you want to hear "no". Just say "It's time for bed") Don't say no to a request unless it is important enough to make that your final answer. If there's a possibility you'll change your mind, just make the answer yes in the first place.