Do you smoke around your kids?
By wahmoftwo
@wahmoftwo (1296)
United States
July 8, 2007 8:30pm CST
Do you smoke around your kids? I'm having a little issue with my daughter and my Ex-Mother in law. My ex still lives with his Mom and she smokes. I haven't made an issue of it until now becuase my daughter's allergies/asthma have become bad enough see is seeing a specialist and starting allergy shots. The doctor says smoking is the number one risk factor for children with allergies and asthma. I have asked that they go out on the nice screened porch they have in the back when my daughter is there. She does some but not always..... She generally is very good and loving with my child but I think she truly does not believe it hurts anyone. She said that I am trying to tell her how to live in her own house..... I don't know what to do. Advice please.....
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@judyt00 (3497)
• Canada
9 Jul 07
Do what my older dayughter did with her in-laws. She simply told them that they wouldn't be allowed to have the kids again if they did not obey the doctor's wishes, and stop smoking in the house. And she stuck to it. Her mom-in-law no longer smokes at all, and puts the credit squarely onto Krista
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@nosferatu07 (404)
• Denmark
9 Jul 07
I don't have kids myself and i do smoke. I always try to go smoking somewhere away from other people beacause i can't respect anyone who does it under non-smoking people and destroy their health.
I guess you should point out that for a child with asthma, breathing in sigaret smoke is really bad.
I go smoking outside, beacause my mother and brother also does not smoke. After a while my dad followed my lead so now we both try to avoid poisoning others.
My sisters husband is also asthmatic so i have to be very careful with him also.
I guess in the end it all comes down to respecting other people. I don't want to be the cause of other peoples health problems so i have to respect their wish not to breathe in my sigaret smoke.
@neon2000 (2756)
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
It's bad to smoke, much bad when the smoke were inhaled by people around you. The risk is double than the smoker itself. So if you feel like smoking, go outside and away from your children. Tell your ex that you really appreciate her attention and love to your daughter but she have to know also what is good and bad when she is with your daughter.
@emeraldisle (13139)
• United States
9 Jul 07
We smoke outside but that was not due to the child in the house. Most of the time she comes out there with us so it wouldn't matter anyways. She comes out on her own not that we take her out there.
With your ex and the mother-in-law I have to ask are you sure the smoke is irritating her. I know many people with allergies and asthma that smoke/smoking does not bother them but other things do like perfume. So unless you are sure (and I don't mean just well the doctor said it could be) it's the smoke causing the problem I wouldn't worry. If though when she's around the smoke she has attacks then yes it is a problem but if she's there and doesn't have a flare up I wouldn't worry. If though she has a flare up while around the smoke then I'd suggest talking with the mother in law about not smoking directly around her.
Below is a link to one study with a lot of comments that you might find interesting about Second hand smoke and allergies/asthma. Now as with any study today about smoking, for it or against, you can find studies to debunk any of them. I'm just offering it up for you to read along with some of the comments by others. It might give some insight for you.
http://www.freerepublic.com/forum/a3b75fa4b211d.htm
@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
9 Jul 07
Hi,ask your ex to stop smoking or do it outside or far from your daughter whenever she likes to and threten her or make her understand the problem that her daughter should face because of her smoking and tell her thgat she doesnot practise this she would be seperated from her daughter,all the best.
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@bellcross (40)
• Malaysia
9 Jul 07
Of course not. Smoking itself is a bad habit and smoke around kids is even worse. As we all know, ciggerette contain a lot of harmful chemical substances. This substance can leave bad effect to our heath such such lung cancer. Please think about your kids when smoking. You give them bad image as the parents. I'm sure that all parents want their kids to respect them. So as the parents, we need to give tnem a good example in live. Love your kid and don't let them hate you. Always know that prention is more better than cure. Act before you have become addicted to this kind of habit. Please make sure that you hide when your smoking. Don't let your kids see you smoking.
@bonbon664 (3466)
• Canada
9 Jul 07
It's a no brainer to me. If she smokes in the house when the kids are there, the kids don't go. Period.
@sunshinecup (7871)
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9 Jul 07
Oh my no! Even before we knew our children were both asthmatics, we never did smoke around them or in the house with them. Just looking at them when they were born, so pure and innocent, it just seemed natural to not want to contaminate the air around them with our smoke. Have you ever held a small baby that smelled of an ashtray? I have and I think it was just awful.
@ivyoon (673)
• United States
10 Jul 07
Both my husband and I smoke, but we don't smoke around the kids. It's bad for their health, and for them to see. I think if we want to convince them it's bad, they shouldn't be around it. We've tried to quit without success, but are still working on it. If the kids come into a room where we are smoking, we either leave the room or ask them to leave if we can't. In the nicer weather, I try to smoke outside, and I usually keep windows open if I do smoke in the house. When it's colder, I just try to smoke less, or do it in the bathroom where we have an exhaust fan.
@lizzyt2007 (1312)
• Craig, Alaska
29 Nov 07
Smoking around any age of children or babies is bad.I don't and won't be around people who do. Bad enough my son has a low immune system so he gets sick or dieases so easily. If I were in the situration your in I would say my daughter is sick and she can't be around cigerate smoke its bad for her longs she has asthma. Please smoke outside. otherwise my daughter can't be around you if you won't stop smoking in the same area she breathes. If you love her please respect her health.
@circumstance (283)
• Malaysia
9 Jul 07
i have no kids and i not smoked.. but i of course it is no good to smoke in front of your kid because it much danger to people who exposed then people who smoked. You should explain to her about the dangerous of this things.. and if you have friend who have more 'power' i mean like doctor or whatever try to tell her, what might happen if she did not stop the habit not just for the kids but for herself too.
@icedventi (155)
• United States
9 Jul 07
My mom went through the same thing with her in-laws when I was a baby. When I was first born and still in the hospital, they came to see us and tried to light up in the hospital room! Then they got offended when my mom told them to get out! My mom wouldn't take me over to their house or let them come see me until the swore not to smoke around me. And they finally gave into it. I had severe asthma as a kid so I definitely didn't need to be in that environment.
If I was you, I wouldn't allow my kid to go over there knowing that she's smoking in front of her. If your ex disputes it, let him take you to court over it. You'll win because he's allowing your child to be put in harm's way.
@jossml (464)
• Puerto Rico
9 Jul 07
The worst thing it can be done to a child is smoke in front of them, around them, with them or what ever. When I was a baby my mom take me to a daycare so she can go to work, that cost me, and my family a lot pain and money. A guy that worked there was smoking around the daycare my mom didn't know but that was terrible and cause me asthma for 8 years until finally and taking natural medicines I can breath again without any difficulty. For me is a crime to do that, the person that smokes in front of any one specially a child is an air head to me.
@collstarx (1177)
• Indonesia
9 Jul 07
No, I did not smoke near my children because that was dangerous for their health.
If wanting to smoke me went to leave the room where children say was being there.
best regards
@angela2006 (1845)
• China
9 Jul 07
i do not smoke and never i will.when working in my office,there are so many people who smoke,then i can not stand them,because i know second smoking is very hard to our body.so in the future,i will never smoke around my kids.
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