The truth about my mother in law
By soccermom
@soccermom (3198)
United States
July 9, 2007 7:03am CST
As some of you know I have been insanely sick the last week. THere were 4 days when I couldn't even talk, and at one point I was hoping I'd be hospitalized I felt so sick. I'm still not 100%, but at least I have my voice back, kind of. Here's the deal. My in laws went to Texas on vacation. My mom kept my kids for my birthday and when I woke up on the 4th thinking I was going to die, and after going to Immediate Care and having the doctor freak me out, I had my hubby call my mom and ask her to keep the kids another night or two. My hubby can try to be Superman, but I knew that when the kids got home he couldn't keep them away from me. Did she keep them? No. She dropped them off 3 hours later and gave some excuse that now she was going to have to go to work for me. Which she didn't do. My sister kept my oldest, but said she couldn't handle the two younger ones. When I realized my family wasn't going to help me I started to cry, and wrote my hubby a note that said "I want your mommy." He called her in Texas, told her what was going on, and they came home, actually cut their vacation short by two days, and came and picked up my two little ones almost as soon as they got back to town. They didn't keep them all night, but came and picked them up and kept them until almost bedtime for 3 days so I could rest. I get so mad at my MIL, but she really showed (as well as my FIL) that they are more like my family than my own. I don't think I will ever be able to complain abou her ever again. I don't even want to see my mom, but unfortunately we hare an office so I will have to, hopefully I will be able to bite my tongue.
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@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
9 Jul 07
Isn't it wonderful when people step up to the plate to help you out, how wonderful, my friend, hopefully you are feeling better, sorry to hear you have been so sick, I did not know it was this bad, I think the last discussion I saw from you said you had a sore throat. Have they figured out what is wrong?? I have a great soup rememdy for sore throats, write me back if you need it.
Take care!
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@soccermom (3198)
• United States
9 Jul 07
I would gladly take a soup recipe! I have been on a "soft foods" diet since the 4th of July because I'm having a hard time swallowing. So far all the docs have told me is that I have a full body infection. It's insane, they haven't even come up with a name for it yet, not that they've told me anyway. I'm on 1000mg Augmentin 3 times a day, and Vicoden for pain. I still caqn't believe I have to go to work today, but the boss is in Alaska for the next 3 weeks and I can't count on mymom to cover for me. Hopefully I'll have a lot of paperwork to catch up on and won't have to speak too much. I'm hoping I don't have a lot of people coming into the office too, my eyes are oozy when I take my pills.
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@texasclassygal (5305)
• United States
9 Jul 07
Don't push yourself too hard, it will only make it harder for you to get better and will probably end up making you worse.
Here is the soup remedy, unsure if it has any substantial medical help, but it sure makes your throat feel good during this time, enjoy!
SOOTHING CHICKEN SOUP
2 cups sliced celery
3 quarts chicken broth
4 cups cubed cooked chicken
1 can (10-3/4 ounces) condensed cream of mushroom soup, undiluted
1 cup uncooked instant rice
1 envelope onion soup mix
1 teaspoon poultry seasoning
1/2 teaspoon seasoned salt
1/2 teaspoon dried thyme
1/2 teaspoon pepper
In a Dutch oven or soup kettle, simmer celery in broth until tender. Stir in the remaining ingredients. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat; cover and simmer for 6-8 minutes or until the rice is tender.
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@tikensoup (227)
• Mauritius
10 Jul 07
Hello Texasclassygal, thanks for your chicken soup Recipe:) It sounds real tasty and reminds me of my grand mother's cuisine. I shall try that. Has anyone of you heard about a book called: "A 2nd helping of Chicken Soup for the soul"? I highly recommend it to everyone.
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@ladysurvivor (4746)
• Malaysia
10 Jul 07
I am sorry to hear. What a terrible mother you have! I pity for you. However I think your husband should be more responsible and take care of your children. He has to because all this while you are the one who took care of them and you can do it, why can't he? So next time you have tell your husband to start learning taking responsibility.
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@soccermom (3198)
• United States
10 Jul 07
My hubby did step up to the plate and help out with the kids. He got up with them every morning, fed them breakfast, gave them baths and got them to his moms so he could do things around the house that he planned on getting done over vacation like fixing the shower, painting my daughters room, cleaning out cupboards, etc..He usually works 60-72 hours a week so we don't have a lot of time to get things done around the house and it makes it even harder with two young kids underfoot. Thanks for your input, but I really don't think I have to tell my husband anything about responsibility.
@GardenGerty (160949)
• United States
10 Jul 07
Some people know what to do when you are really in need. I had neat mothers in law. One lived close enough to be close to my kiddos and come stay with us occasionally. I hope you can forgive your mom, since she is the only one that you have, and once she is gone, you will miss her, whatever she did. I am sure you will keep your distance for a while. More fitting would be if you could have selectively given her what you had. Revenge and retribution. I am sure it will not happen.
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@SpitFire179 (2536)
• Canada
9 Jul 07
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww
That is so sweet of her to help you out like that, any little thing helps, i pitty your mother though, though she doesn't deserve pitty it's a sad life she's living if she can't even help out her own daughter...
I hope your feeling much better, do you know what you have?
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@soccermom (3198)
• United States
9 Jul 07
The docs haven't given me a name for what I have, all they said was at this point I'm not contagious. It was crazy. It hit me one night like the flu coming on, then my throat started to really hurt, and when the 4th came I woke up and I couldn't talk, my eyes were oozy and half shut, my body hurt like I'd been beat with a bat and I couldn't swallow, my ears hurt so bad. All I know is it is some sort of infection that seems to have attacked my whole body. I've been on a soft foods diet for almost a week now, I'm hoping I'll lose a few extra pounds!
@KrisNY (7590)
• United States
12 Jul 07
Wow--- I’m so glad that your in-laws came through for you and your husband- I think that everyone gets on our nerves- but what matters most is who is there when you really need them? For you it was your sister- and your in-laws- So now when they do something to irritate you or make a comment you don’t like- remember back to when they rescued you when you were sick- and smile- It’s great to have people you can count on- I know my mom would have dropped everything for me and my daughter- and I’m sure my sig, others family also- His mom passed away but his dad is wonderful!
@sutan74 (1112)
• Philippines
9 Jul 07
Hi, hope your feeling better. Try the soup that texasclassygal gave you it might help a bit. I know our in laws are not the greatest persons sometime but your in laws was there when you needed them the most and that should mean something. Your MIL felt that you should rest and that was maybe the reason she kept your kids from you. You needed that rest and if your kids are there you might get up from bed. I really appreciate my in laws too, coz they are always there when I needed help with my kids. Take care and hope you get well soon.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
9 Jul 07
That was really nice of them. They must think a lot of you guys to cut their vacation short. Sometimes we have to look at the positive things that people do and look over some of the other things. Maybe when you are feeling better you could do something nice for her and her husband to show them how much you appreciated them. They sure went out of their way to help. I am glad that they did.
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@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
9 Jul 07
oh no you poor kid!
I dont know if I could hold my tounge or not would be very hard to do .So sorry they cut their vacation short maybe they can make up for it later. Hoping you are feeling much better today and get back on feet soon hugs and blessings
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@sweetgirl_k1 (3972)
• United States
9 Jul 07
It looks like your mom would have wanted to help you out when you were sick. My mom helps me out a lot so I guess I just think that all mom's are supposed to do that. I know they don't but I just have a great mom that helps me out all the time and I'm very thankful for her. I'm sorry your mom was like that but I'm glad that your MIL came and got them and took care of them for you.
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@stella1989 (2274)
• India
9 Jul 07
Look at the brighter side of the life..!!
Women cry for not getting a good mother-in-law as they are always nagging and nagging and correcting others like bollywood movies..!! :P
But you have a terrfic helping mother-in-law its soo good...!!
And hey cheer up....you can forgive your own mother too...!!
She is your mother after all.
:)
@UDDERONES (887)
• United States
10 Jul 07
That was so nice that your Mother In Law stepped up to the plate and helped you out. I am sure you would do the same if the shoe was on the other foot. Who knows you probably already have.
I sure hope you are feeling better soon. I just hate being sick. I feel so bad, I can't imagine having little ones to deal with while you are sick. I don't have little ones and I know how I feel when I am sick.
Please take care of yourself. I love your discussions and replies so I want you well. :)
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@sid556 (30959)
• United States
9 Jul 07
It would appear that your sickness may have been a blessing in disguise. It brought you closer to your in laws and let you realize how much they really do care about you. What they did was over and beyond awesome. Feels good to know that someone cares doesn't it? I am sorry that your own family could not have extended the same kindness. Let's hope they have good reason. Family is so important. Hope you are well on the road to recovery!! Take care
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@KraZyDaIZy (42)
• United States
9 Jul 07
You know, I feel the same way about my family! My Mother and Father always have an excuse why they cant help out. I was in the hospital last weekend, I was soooo sick... but it was simply just too far (a whole 5 miles) for them to drive to come pick up my son... but my mother in law offered to fly my son to South America for the summer where she is vacationing so that I would have plenty of time and peace to get better! Sometimes, our "in-law" families are the balance of our "real" families! Thats a good thing! (even though she makes me nuts sometimes)
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@academic2 (7000)
• Uganda
9 Jul 07
Sad thing to go through in your state indisposition-I wouldnt like to make a lot of judgement but I believe if I were your relative, be i your Sister, Mom or MIL, I think I would have acted more differntly-you were obviously not going for a vacation, you were very ill and I guess any relative should have taken interest in helping you and your husband-such is life soccermom, its at times such as this that you know who really cares in the Winter, Spring, Autium and in the Summer! take it as a learning experience and put it behind you. Am glad you are getting better!
@awonderfullife (2893)
• United States
9 Jul 07
You are so lucky to have such a loving MIL, soccermom. I know how much you appreciate her. We all complain about family once in a while, but when it comes down to it, you know you have great in-laws. Your own mom will probably be sorry some day. I would tell her how your MIL stepped up in your time of need- she should know.
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@UnicornDancer (91)
• United States
12 Jul 07
What a wonderful MIL you have!! We can't pick our family and sometimes they let us down when we need them, but isn't it great to know you have someone that will step in and help.
