Would you marry a woman with kids???
By saierchok
@saierchok (1294)
United States
6 responses
@russelcrowe (279)
• China
10 Jul 07
if u really love her u should accept all she have including her shortcoming and of course her kids.
@saierchok (1294)
• United States
10 Jul 07
you're right, as my friend once said, " love overcomes it all" just accep things under loves cover.. they'll be much better!
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@vaibhavan03 (6)
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9 Jul 07
hii. well its a gud question...Ya i would do it. See if u love a married girl then there is no harm in marrying her. As ur are acceptin married girl in ur life then at the same time u need to accept the kids also. See they hav come into this world without their permission.. There is no fault of the kids. So from my point of view I would accept the kids and would consider them as mine after the marriage.
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@saierchok (1294)
• United States
9 Jul 07
I would do the same :) though I wouldn't think of dating one!! but if love happenes then let it happen! and yes I'm ready to marry a woman with kids and I'd treat them as if they were mine! and show them all the care a father can do..
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@liyan97 (2127)
• Northern Mariana Islands
13 Jul 07
Hello there Saierchok!
I realize that this question is for the men, but I have to respond for myself. If I met a man who loved me but wouldn’t accept my children then I wouldn’t marry him. In fact that would be the beginning of the end of our relationship.
If a person loved you to the point of wanting to spend the rest of their life with you, then something like the woman having children should not be an issue at all! That is something that should be talked about since the get go. I always tell any guy that I meet that I am a single mom! Depending on how they look at me or what they respond with, I then and there make the decision is he I worth being part of my life.
As for if I would marry a man who had kids, yes, if our relationship lasted long enough to get to that point.
@romanyuan (11)
• China
11 Jul 07
it is a tough question in some parts of the world,especially in rural areas,if a man in those areas choosed to marry a woman with kids ,he would face a lot of questions ,incluing his parents'objection,his friends' misunderstanding,and the discrimnation of the society,and so on.fortunately ,you live in a country where those questions occur less frequently than they do in other parts of the world,you are lucky ,congratulations!
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@saierchok (1294)
• United States
12 Jul 07
interesting! never knew that marrying a woman with kids is faced by society! any society!
I think it's only up to the man to choose wether to marry a woman with kids or not! it's love that determines that right!
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@michecu (637)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
I'm a girl and i believe there is nothing wrong with marrying a woman with kids. I think this should also be a concern for women who would be marrying mnn with kids. hehehe!!! And how about if both man and woman would bring own children into the family. Hehehe!
In this case, for those who are in this situation, you should also prepare yourself to accept the kids as your own and be a father to them though they are not biologically yours. You should also prepare yourself to meet the real father of the kids as he might also visit the kids in the future..or that perhaps, he might want to take the kids with him. YOU should also prepare for legalities and possibility of adopting the kids so they could have a share of inheritance...and also prepare to give moral support to the kids because it's also possible that they'll have emotional issues regarding the family set up.
WEll, I have this idea coz my current bf has kids too. And I've thought up of possibilities in the future and being able to manage it well when it happens.