Will you still stay in the marriage when your partner admitted he's unfaithful?

To me, it's unforgiveable....and they always DO COME CRAWLING BACK. I don't know how many exboyfriends I've had come back declaring how wonderful I was for them. Psh. I even hate hearing it. Wish they would have just gone on their ways without telling me. It's always going to be too late.

Its not worth proving to husbands here that we are better persons. How much ever we portray we are understanding and forgiven them,its a ugly green monster which will lurk up forever. i would just walk out of such marriage.

this is actually one of the few things i made clear with my husband before we got married. i told him that once he becomes unfaithful or abusive to us (me and our children), i will leave him. i'll take our children with me and he'll never see us again.

i myself could never get over that fact. if my husband were unfaithful, i would for sure be done. i think he feels the same way-when we got married over 26 years ago, we made a pact that if he or i wanted a differnt partner at any time in our life together, that we would tell eachother before we humiliated or hurt one another. loyalty is big with me. i am a very loyal person, and i will remain so until i am betrayed.

Its a resounding "NO"..from the beginning of my relationships, i make it a point to my man that once he cheated on me, the relationship is over because it manifests that 1)he really diidnt love me because if he does, he can fight back the urge to be attracted to women more beautiful than me; 2) he doesnt respect me for if you really respect someone, you'll think if your action would hurt her/him; 3) he will do it again, he did it once, its impossible he will never do it again

My husband has cheated in me at least or times, and regrettably, I stayed with him. If I could go back now to the first time it happened, I would have left him, because I had family that would have helped me then. Our marriage has been a very unhappy one. The first time I found out he was doing it, I had a newborn. We've been married for almost years.

I know when my ex husband left after he had cheated on me at friend I would of took him back but not now no way I could never trust him.

If my partner's admitted that he's unfaithful, that means a big issue to me. Trust has been breached and I no longer want to have any commitments with him. It's useless to live with somebody who doesn't love you, he will not be a benefit to you, he is the one getting the benefits of your love. So if your spouse can make your life miserable, why can't you make his life miserable too? This is only a thought, the decision is yours. I hope you will make a wise decision if it really happens to you one day. Have a nice day to you.

I stayed in the marriage only to protect my kids. My ex had a half dozen girlfriends in various states (one was his first wife who lived in our town) and he was a truck driver. I joked once that I wanted him to bring one of them home to help me with the kids (we had six combining his mine and ours) and housework...said that I oughtta get something out of it too. He didn't think it was funny. Anyway, I could not leave because he was extremely abusive and would have gotten visitation with our very young child we had together. The only way I could protect him was to "be there" to intervene. As it worked out he ended up kidnapping him from me twice when I tried separating from him or he moved out one of the umpteen times and the court ordered no visitation so then I was able to leave finally.

That is one of a common story of unfaithfulness. I don't know what to do if if my partner admit to me that he has another relationship with other woman. Maybe, i will stay in the marriage as long as he wants to stay. If i can see in his eyes the sincerity of admitting such relationship, well he is too courageous to admit in the first place, i think i can find a way to forgive him. I will give him a chance to let me hear his side on why and where was my fault, what else he want and where did i go wrong which caused him to have a relationship with other woman. I would like my partner to be open to me. I will protect my marriage no matter what happen. Marriage is something sacred and solemn to me, a vow which should not be broken by anyone, i will work hard on it and hope my partner also do. If my partner fail, i will still listen and will do my best to work things out and get his cooperation. If my partner felt unhappy with the marriage, i'll give him space to think it over, try to explain pros and cons if we will separate. I know that it is a kind of martyrdom, but it doesn't matter to me if it is a prize for having a happy and strong family relationship.

No, cheating is unforgivable! In the past I would leave the guy right away. If my husband cheated I'd do the same. Of corse it would be more paperwork, but he knows that first thing I'd kick him out of the house if I ever found out he was with someone else.

It's hard to accept and I think I would move out of the relationship. Because I would always brag him about it. I might forgive him but I'm not definite when can I forget it. When a glass is broken it will not be whole again just like the trust itself. Once cheated hard to put back the trust and peace of mind. So why stay in a relationship when you cannot trust the person anymore.

If that would happen to me then, we won't fight anymore, I will tell him to pack his things and I will open the door so he can go out easily without thinking of coming back.

Once trust is broken whether it be due to cheating or other reasons, it is so very hard to regain. I know that some will be quick to jump in here with a positive story of how forgiveness strengthened their relationship. I am sure it can happen. It would take 2 very committed people to make a relationship that has been broken down work. There would have to be alot of real strong positives in the relationship for me to ever go thru that again.

Wow..thats a tough question..and i think ther are so many things that would have to be thought out..Right now in my life I would say Hell with him and move on..I actually did do that once..and we were together for 7 years,,but being 75 yrs old..some people are afraid to die alone..and being that high in age..maybe she could live with it..as long as it was in the past..I dont know what i would say..or do..i know theres a chance she could meet someone else..maybe not..i guess it just depends on the person..I for one..am not afraid of dying..but being alone when i go is mine..i have such mixed feelings..i really dont know..but if he insisted on continuing the relationship..I say no..let him leave..well i think thats what id say lol..not much help was i? lol

If I ever found out my husband cheated it would be over right then and there. I couldn't live with him after that, always wondering if he was doing it again. I also think having textmates, email buddies and chat friends is emotionally cheating. He should be talking to me and enjoying my company, not another womans.

I don't know how I would react to that because only facing it I would knew. What I think is, if he is cheating on me it's because he doesn't love me as he did. He may say he still loves me but he really did, why did he get another woman? If I'm the one he loves and the one he wants to be there's no reason to have an affair. Besides, if you forgive him he will feel secure to do it again. You love him and he knows that because you have already forgiven him so it is more likely that he will do it once again hoping for forgiveness again.

on the issue of giving forgiveness for such a "crime" ... although I've never had to face that particular situation before, I'd like to think I've come close. In this past year, a guy I was dating dumped me for another girl, then about a month or so later comes running back to me begging for forgiveness, saying he wants to be with me and also with her. I told him no and ever since then he's kept on coming back to me begging for forgiveness and I've just got to constantly be on my toes, saying no to him. Recently he's claimed he'll dump the other girl for me if necessary ... yea right. It is incredibly annoying to have to constantly put up with that sort of thing.

I don't know what I would do. I think I would probably walk out, but I'm not so sure my family would be that understanding. My Mom has this thing about the importance of working things out in a marriage. I may give it a second chance, but not immediately. I'd have to be sure that the other person is committed to trying to make it work. He would need to prove that to me in more ways than one.

first thing is to have a discussion with your partner. Why did he do it? Was it a one time thing or was it on a regular basis? If this happened because he is unhappy then there is no forgiving to be done. Just end the relationship. But if this was a mistake and a one time thing, then therapy is an option for the cheated on to forgive. Couples are worth the effort. Nobody is perfect. And everybody can make a mistake.