Ending Friendship Part 2

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A few days ago, I posted about ending a friendship without giving an explanation, well today, I found out what the problem was and I have ended the relationship. When I first met this friend, I could not stand her, she was bossy controling and mean to everyone around her. But something kept my hanging around her. It was like watching a train wreck. You know it is horrible, but for some reason you can't stop looking. After a while I realized why she was so impossible, she was on drugs and an alcoholic. I worked with her tirelessly to leave all this stuff alone and she did, at least for a little while. Problem is, she kept the same boyfriend and friends and got a drinking roommate to move in with her. Of course, we all know if you don't put the trash out, eventually you are going to come across it again. She promised me that she had left the stuff alone for good and I made it clear to her that my friends have to be sober. Today we had lunch together and she admitted that she still drinks "sometimes." Now, I am no dummy. It is not easy to pull the wool over my eyes. But when you care for someone, you want to believe the best about them. There were a few times that I suspected that she might be drinking again and I would call her on it and she would get all upset and go through this whole routine about me not trusting her. So I would just believe her and go on. And I mean I really believed her because when she admitted it today, I was shocked. But then, I immediately started thinking and things started to make sense. I had not been welcomed to her apartment for months, because her roommate hated me. I was always leary of this because in my heart I knew that I had never done anything to her. Every one was welcomed in the apartment accept me and I was supposed to be her best friend. I still never caught on. Then she had the nerve to get mad at me, because my mood changed after she told me. So she says, see that is what I don't like about you, I am 40 years old and I can drink anytime I want to and you are always getting an attitude. I could barely get a word in before she stormed off. When I could to my apartment, I was in a full fledge anxiety attack from the anger that I felt and she had the nerve to be standing at my door waiting for me. I opened the door and she walked in and starting yelling at me. So, I got up and left the apartment. She stayed for a minute longer and then came out. I was so upset that I don't remember anything that was said, I just wanted to get the drama away from me, so that I could relax. I spoke to my counselor and he said that he understood my need to forgive because of my religion, but he said, you need to leave her alone, because every time you fight, she takes a piece of you. He is so right. I have had a headache for the last six hours. I can not keep going through this mess with her. She hast to go. If she wants to use, that is fine, but she will not be in my life. I will end up some where in the nut farm and that idoit will still be up there drinking. I never knew a person could get so mean from drinking, it's like dealing with the devil himself, but I will not put up with that mess any more.