Getting Even
By diannebcrs
@diannebcrs (1549)
Philippines
July 10, 2007 2:52am CST
Someone told me:
"When you plan to get even with someone, you're only letting that person continue to hurt you.."
Is that right? Based on experience, when I got even with someone, it somehow made me feel bittersweet, knowing that he/she's not the only one who scored.. But I don't know. It somehow made me feel strange - like the person still has the power over me to make me feel miserable.
4 responses
@pilotjune1972 (199)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
hi diannebcrs, thats guilt. Its what you feel when you do something your not used to, which is somehow against your beliefs. That someone was right, trying to get even just makes you more vulnerable to the person you want to get even with. I suggest that you let it go, don't bother to get even, its not worht it. You're a much better person than he/she is, always remember that :)
@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
thanks for that idea. i don't want to be burdened by guilt or any feeling related to that because i'd rather be free.. i guess i should let go of my past grudges and move on, right? thanks a lot. god bless you!
@delenep (212)
• United States
10 Jul 07
Makes sense to me. The greater power is in being the bigger person and letting the hurt go and forgiving the person. Getting even has to do with settling a score, causing hurt because you've been hurt and really just causing a vicious cycle. Yo'll never be free of teh person if you keep getting even cos you keep causing and receiving hurt trying to be better at it than they are. It's pride based. Pride comes before a fall. You don't want to fall, but to make the other person fall by hurting them cos they hurt you. U're still going to fall. Give up pride, take on humility and let it go by forgiving the person and removing the power they have over you. They can't touch you if you don't fight back.
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@diannebcrs (1549)
• Philippines
10 Jul 07
That also makes sense. Thanks for putting some sense into my wacky brain. Although it's hard to welcome humility, I've got to try, right? I don't want anyone to have any power over me exept God. :) God bless!
@kslcash (198)
• United States
14 Jul 07
Oh My God! In the past, I was bad about getting even with ANYONE who hurt me, but I can say that I have changed. Sometimes, I get the urge to get even but I have to ask God for guidance. You have to analyze things from a different perspective. For instance, what would you accomplish by getting even? What was done to you has already been done. How would you getting even make the situation any better? If you were human and had a heart, you would think about what that person has done to you and how it made you feel. Would you REALLY want to hurt someone or make them feel what you felt? Yes, maybe just a little bit but later on you will think about what you have done and you will regret it. Speaking from experience, when you are hurt by someone you don't need to seek revenge. You reap what you sow and it doesn't take long. When you are knocked down or just shoved to the side, get up or proudly move over, smile and KNOW that your battle has all ready been WON.
@gemmoney87 (211)
• Vietnam
14 Jul 07
you can forgive them, don't let them make you feel miserable. If a person hurt you, they are lose their benefits which are your belief in them. You should forgive them to make you feel better. However, don't forget that, just remember it to make sure that they will not able to hurt you one more time.
