friends into lovers...do u think its worth it?
By _jajallena
@_jajallena (52)
Philippines
July 10, 2007 8:32pm CST
uve been friends for like what?...4 years..and you still see him as the fat boy with no manners..and he sees you as the thin awkward girl with a ruler type figure...then one day..after too many drinks together...too many nights of having those dvd marathons..too many times you've gone out on a sort of date for lack of a thing to do...it both hit u..he's the one, she's the one....
do you really really think it's worth risking the friendship and move on to the next level?
....ive had my share of THAT...and it did not end up ok...we didnt end up ok...it turned out that my best friend is now a semi stranger..that someone who i see one day and probably think...i miss the good old days where i can smack him in the head and laugh about it...
...would u really put ur friendship at stake and be at risk of the dreaded break up?and lose everything...friendship and all. grrr.
2 responses
@tmlnmr (1850)
• Canada
11 Jul 07
Hi and welcome! I was friends with my husband before we got sexually involved and I think that during the friendship stage of our relationship we were able to grow and love each other so when we moved to that next level it made the transition easier. I wouldn't do it any other way really. You learn so much about someone by hanging out with them that they try to hide when they are trying to impress you. I mean this guy never had to impress you because you are friends. It takes a lot of stress out of it. :)
@_jajallena (52)
• Philippines
11 Jul 07
hey.. im happy it worked out for you and your husband...i forgot about that part! where marrying your bestfriend is the best thing that could happen to you... you get to grow old together and all that...*sigh* i guess im just a lot less lucky (:
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@reeyamei (26)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
maybe it went wrong when you lost yourself in the process... hehehehe... your world evolved around him that you forgot all about yourself...
maybe the reason why he's now seems to be a stranger is that you refuse to accept the fact that it did not turn out to be ok between both of you...
if he is trying to reach out then don't deny him of the opportunity... or maybe you are afraid that old feelings might resurface that's why you push him further away...
if you really feel that your being lovers has ended... it does not mean that your friendship will have the same fate...
i'm not saying this because i want the two of you to get together again... you deserve the person you are with right now....
what i'm trying to say is that for you to have complete closure, you need to face that fear...
hehehehe... luv u and rye....
@_jajallena (52)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
deym...u practically summarized my feelings and the situation...*bawl* ...yea yea...the friendship was really too good to lose just like that..then again.. oh well..what can i say... some things are just not meant to be...u should know that too. lurve u too - me n rye - lol
