Renewing your marriage

actually someone asked us the same question. we have been married almost 20 years. frankly i dont see the need nor the big deal about it...

You can't marry someone without their permission. So you shouldn't renew your vows as a surprise either. Maybe he doesn't want to, or wants to wait, or has his own ideas about it. I don't think it's wise to go behind his back and plan this. Discuss it with him, and tell him it's something you'd like to do. But let him have a say in it, or your marriage could be one you'd rather not renew after all!

These kinds of ideas are strange to Indians. In India, marriage is an insitution and husband and wife are permanent members. It is rare either one of them replaced now and then. For Indians marriage is not like changing shirts. They firmly believe in everlasting relationship with strong familial bondage.

I think personally that should be a joint decision but then you know your Husband and only you know how he will react to it but I personally would consult him

I think it is a good idea. But do you think he would want a big party? Or more of a small, intimate one. That is the only thing I would unsure of, the size of the party. Because after 21 years, I believe he still loves you, LOL.