do you say bluntly to your partner his/her negative attitude?
By josh_caare
@josh_caare (252)
Philippines
July 11, 2007 11:14am CST
I have been asking this questions to many people. I have a partner and we have been together for 9 years. I tell her bluntly of the negative attitudes that i observe from her. If I do that, she shy away and never talk to me for a while. I did not realize that until i notice that if i do the same thing, the same cold war happens.. is it wrong to tell your partner of his/her negative attitude.. BLUNTLY?
4 responses
@snoopy04 (718)
• United States
11 Jul 07
My husband and I always tell each other our negative attitudes but we do it in a nice calm manner. We never say it in a way that would hurt each others feeling. I think if their is a problem you should tell your partner but I would try to tell her in a way that she wouldnt get her feeling hurt.
@mean_queen (1713)
• Malaysia
11 Jul 07
I agree. Saying it in a calm manner would definitely make things better. Some girls could be really really sensitive so it'll just aggravate things if you say it bluntly..
@cryw0lf (1302)
• United Kingdom
11 Jul 07
Sometimes you just have to tell your partner its annoying and it puts you down, they should try to look on the positive side, though thats hard i know because i always look on the negative side... but atleast try a bit of optimisium, next time she says something depressing, say hey, look on the bright side and tell her something good about the situation.
@Juanamomof5 (429)
• United States
11 Jul 07
If it hurts her feeling, then no not bluntly. Try a nicer way of telling her about her attitude.
@prettypetra (10)
• Philippines
11 Jul 07
i dont think its wrong..i think its better if you tell him/her directly in his/her face so that they will know that thier negative attitudes really hurt others..im a female..sometimes when i get so mad at my boyfriend i would hit him hard..but thats out of the question...honesty is the best ingredient in the relationship..the way you deliver your concerns for your partner may hurt but then it will be all emotions..it wouldnt be that bad...learn to say sorry too...after youve said your side
