Do you have a good relationship with your in laws?

No I dont have a good relationship with my in laws. I live right next door to my mother-in-law and she is constantly meddling into my marriage and giving advice whether its warranted or not. My parents are deceased so her mission is take my mothers place and tell me how to raise her grandkids. I have alot of bitterness towards her even though I have tried to get along with her. In her eyes I am not good enough for her son so she makes my life very difficult. But I love my husband and I refuse to let her destroy my marriage. We have been through so much snd I refuse to let her come between us. We are working on fixing up our home and selling it so we can move out to the country. Both me and my husband know that would help a great deal if there was distance between us. Yes I agree that there are meddling in laws who just cant let go of their son or daughter.

yes i agree that in-laws must not meddle into a couples lives. But really, it all depends on what you mean by "meddle". Absolutely, meddling is different from just being plain caring, or the "love's-you-that-much son/daughter" theme. Maybe some parents are bit not confident that their sons/daughters are now married, building now their own families, and making all those decisions, just yesterday, they are kids hanging on them. Or maybe some parents are really that loving... minus the "not-knowing-you-that-much" from son or daughter-in-laws. Given some time, with due respect and a positive attitude, maybe both sides would develop a mutual understanding.

I maintain very closed contact with in-laws. See my discussions http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1201349.aspx we call half wife to our younger sister-in-laws by joking (not in fact).

It is true to a great extend that in-laws creates problems. To me my in-laws are okay. But it is not the same with my wife. When my dad was alive he and my wife were in good rapot. With my mom she hardly adjust.

I have a great relationship in laws. As a matter of fact when my hubby and I went through a rough spot in our marriage a few years ago, my inlaws offered for me to come and live with them. My MIL also told my hubby that if he made me move away with my daughter she would get him!! (And she meant it too!!!) I'm very blessed to have a great relationship with my inlaws a lot of people don't have the kind of relationship that I have with mine.

I agree with you...once a man and a women gets married they are one, and take any decisions on their own...never ever allow any of the inlaws to interfere..i went to the extent of getting seperated from my hubby because of my inlaws possesiveness towards her big boy baby...i don't say her affection is wrong...but has her own limitations when she gets her son married.......couple should be allowed to raise their own family...

My husband has an ok relationship with my family. They can tolerate each other for a little while. I had a good relationship with my in-laws until my second son was born, and now I am so upset with my mother-in-law, I am sure I will get over it and things will be better but she made me very angry. She stayed at the house to care for my pets and oldest son, she rearranged my sons room, kitchen, bathrooms, painted my bedroom and left my son with strangers in the waiting room to invade my privacy while I delivered. I didn't want her or my son to hear my labour and she stood outside the door and listened while someone I don't know and she didn't know looked after my other son. thank God nothing bad happened and my sons are both safe and back with me but I can't get over her and what she has done to my home and family.

Yes, I have a great relationship with my in-laws. They really support me a lot.

I've been married for seven years now and all the way our discretion is highly respected by our in laws and parents as well. I had a good relationship with my in-laws and so is my wife with my parents and brothers and sisters. Our in laws and our parents are there always for us couple but not to the extent of breakin us down. No matter how far have we gone now, they're just still out there behind communicating for our good and still giving moral support for us. Maybe i think i was just blessed to have this kind of a situation of which i love and been loved by my in laws. If i may suggest and say, both parents should always be there for their married children to stand as advisers and not to make discretion. Love plays an important role in getting up with a good relationship in between them.

Fortunately I live far from my inlaws. I have heard that many couples are having trouble when they live together with their inlaws. Actually my inlaws are okay, they are nice person and I am lucky to have them as my inlaws. But I agree that I wouldn't want to stay with them. I am afraid if I stay together with them, I would be uncomfortable when we have some different views on something. That's my opinion on this matter. Have a nice day to you...

I dont think so.I am separated for 4 years now and the reason is not because of my in laws.Right now, i am very close to them.The irresponsibility of my xhusband was bearly unacceptable.But my in laws are there to help me in any means.They love me so much and they support me emotionally & financially.

The moment my son got married, I kept him separate thinking that they will have privacy, they can understand each other well and enjoy life well. They come and go now and then. This is better I feel. If I or they need the help of each other, we are always there.

me too do agree. here in our place had a lot of problems with in-laws.my status with my in-laws is good but sometimes it's annoying. what i like is that she sometimes cook for us and really loves the kids and what i don't like is sometimes she gives opinions/advice which you don't like. but in general, she is good to us. i can only say that if you want to have a good relationship with your in-laws then try to make friends with them but with a little distant that they cannot interfere with your marriage. and avoid fighting that means don't exchange bad words. when she/he does, just walkout and live here alone.

Two things: in-laws who need money and in-laws who has money. For me neither of them is good. I've been married for two years now and we've been living with my father-in-law. He's been very nice to me and to my two daughters. He's the "who needs money" type. When you say good relationship it has to be no limitations. My father-in-law he's good/nice to me and to my two daughters even though I have no money. He don't want to get involved in our decisions as much as possible. He's there when you need advise. We PAY for their electric/water/gas bills, in return, he take good care of my children. And then I hired 2 baby sitters for my two daughters. Why on earth do I need him for? I don't know. I just feel safe knowing that someone is really taking good care of my daughters.

I won't know until I meet them. My fiance is much older than I am, so I see the kids more than I would see the in-laws. Most people my age don't have step-kids-to-be, but what the hey, mine are absolutely awsome!!! Don't know about the in-laws, but I love the step-kids.

I always got along with my in laws and if I did not get along with them i would not live in their home. I married their daughter and she and I would always visit our in laws and we were very happy to do this as this ws fun.. but after awhile..marriage goes on rocks and then you are still friends with your in laws..but not mate..so this can be a problem for all around.. I always respected the old people and now that I am old I knew in my heart I did the right thing..I kept the in laws but got rid of their daughter as she was to spoiled and lazy..she has been married six times and her parents are now in heaven..but that girl she sure was one mixed up cookie..i have re married and 22 years tomorrow we have been married..to a Pinoy.