Being a mother should come with a guideline and rule book!
By lokealea
@lokealea (8)
United States
July 11, 2007 10:58pm CST
I am so surprised that I have survived being a mother, it is actually the hardest job there is especially when you are a single mother like myself. Alot of the time I felt like pulling my hair out. I have 2 sons and it was a little easier taking care of their basic needs when they were small and I always did work sometimes I had to work two jobs to make ends meet but I did it. But as they grew it really got hard. They are teenagers now and I have to deal with the schools and the hanging with the wrong crowds and getting in trouble period. But I am managing and when you think they are not listening, believe me 95% of the time, they are not. But like I always say we all have to find out the hard way and momma's words will come back into play.
3 responses
@chari_dc (492)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
i am a mother by instinct. i try to always think of what's best first for my kids. and since they're still young, i don't have to worry yet whether they're listening to me or not. what i do now is impart as much good values to them so that they will become good citizens when they grow up.
@lokealea (8)
• United States
12 Jul 07
yes we all instill and teach how to be respectful, and good citizens, etc... while our children are young starting from birth and we all have high expectations of our children and alot of us are blinded by what we want to see our children do instead of the reality of what may happen in the future. You can do the very best parent and be as impartial as you want but the truth and the reality is that even with all the good teachings and instilling of good values while they are young, when they do grow up they will make up their own minds. Now if you are like me and have a great relationship that is open and free, but you are still strict with your rules then maybe things will work out. It works for me but everyone is different. Just prepare yourself for those days ahead while your children are still young and get your plan together now and maybe when those days do come when you apply it it will work.
@DJ9020 (1596)
• United States
12 Jul 07
The mother's guideline and rule book - that's called Grandma!!!! That's when we get to tell our kids - well, when you were young - and give your kids all the bad examples from when you were growing up! Seriously, raising teenagers in this day is incredibly hard. Just hang in there. They may be hearing more than you think they are.
@lokealea (8)
• United States
12 Jul 07
Oh yes indeed! Grandmothers are great, because through grandma's mistakes we learn. The wisdom of grandma is beautiful. I still the voice of my grandmother today when I have an issue to work out within myself or my children. And raising teenagers today is extremely hard because there is more trouble out there to get into and peer pressure is more extreme. But I take it one day at a time and I talk to my children daily and I let them know that what they do reflects them and like I said, sometimes I don't think they listen to me but alot of the times I know they do. They are 17 & 14 and I am on them everyday and I have a great relationship with them because it is a open and honest but strict one and it is much harder when you are raising 2 sons as a single mother also. But I take it one day at a time and I always keep my head up. Thank you for your kind words of wisdom I do greatly appreciate it.
@Married2aMarine (1273)
• United States
12 Jul 07
Even a guideline and a rule book doesn't always work because every child is so different. LOL!! But yes, I do agree that being a mom is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do. Next to being a military spouse. But isn't it amazing how one can learn to cope under the sink or swim circumstances?
@lokealea (8)
• United States
12 Jul 07
And you are so right! And I really feel for you as a military wife and mother and maybe your children will be golden with the military training in the househould. That is what I wanted for my children when I wanted to go to the marines. But I chose my children over the marines in which in a way I regret but then again I don't. But I believe that your children are going to grow up great! Good Luck to you!
